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Offline eldee

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scary experience!
« on: December 08, 2006, 11:18:09 PM »
Hi All,

Firstly, thank you so much for this amazingly helpful forum.

Here's my tale: I'm a heterosexual college girl, responsible about the use of condoms. Last weekend I got a bit drunk and left a party with a friend of my ex-boyfriend's. I was sure to make him put on a condom before we had sex but halfway through the encounter I noticed that the condom was laying on the floor beside us. I pointed it out and he acted surprised, but I'm quite sure he removed the condom and thought I wouldn't notice. He was drunk as well and having some trouble maintaining an erection, which may be part of why he was such a jerk and took the condom off. In any case, I stopped the sex the moment I realized the condom wasn't on, but it may have been a few minutes from the time it came off to the time I noticed. I'm so freaked out-- nothing like this has ever happened to me! Was this a very high risk encounter? I've learned major lessons about having a sex partner that you trust/not having sex with a new partner while intoxicated. I went to the gyno and got tested for all STD's. She says they can pick up Chlamydia and Gonnorhea immediately but HIV will take longer. I'm so afraid! Any thoughts?

Thanks so much!

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Re: scary experience!
« Reply #1 on: December 09, 2006, 06:47:40 AM »

Testing for most of the other STIs can take place 10-14 days after the encounter, or sooner if symptoms (like discharge) develop before then. Hiv and syphilis share a three month window period for a conclusive negative result.

You have had an hiv risk and you do need to test, but the odds are in your favour for testing negative after a one-time incident. As the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, a test at that time would be an excellent indication of your true status, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

Please check out the condom and lube links in my signature line. On either of those pages, there are links on the left-hand side to information on the female condom. You might want to look into those because they give YOU the control over condom usage. Please also check out the
Welcome Thread and follow the Lessons links.

Keep in mind that you're likely to be fine after this brief incident. However, the only way to know your status is to test. Hiv is nothing to guess about or make assumptions about.

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