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Author Topic: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.  (Read 5450 times)

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Offline chwhyoche

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Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« on: November 18, 2016, 02:25:57 am »
The pool of men has gotten so small and the ones I have talked to or met seem to have issues, ex addicts of some sort.  Some were highly promiscuous (ie. sex parties).   I was so conservative when I got this from my husband 17 years ago ( having had only one partner before him), and now he has passed away, and I have this depressingly limited pool of men to try and find a great match.   Yet the incidence of drug use is likely or recovery from it, or promiscuity, or deviant behavior.  Last one was a major covert narcissist.   If you laugh at this, or think it is cute, then you do not know what this personality disorder truly is or how emotionally abusive such a person can be.

Such a pathetic situation I have gotten into. 

Offline PittGurl

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #1 on: November 25, 2016, 12:16:57 pm »
Agree :(   I've pretty much reserved myself to just working on me and enjoying the other parts of life.
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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2017, 10:25:50 am »
  this is bones5   not sure where you at ,   I am in central texas    . some of the adds  that read this,,,,and that,,, are miss leading    some of these folks not truthful about their   situation     . but I am right here for real
letters from bruce I am here  in central texas near capital.. I am here for any one..

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2017, 11:31:32 am »

Please do not post in the positive women's section of the forum.
It's strictly off limits to men.

Thank you.

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Offline Cerise_81

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #4 on: June 20, 2017, 11:56:35 am »
I agree, the men on the poz website is do depressing. From lies to the games,it's just useless.

Offline sologirl

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #5 on: September 14, 2017, 05:47:26 pm »
This is a problem with most HIV dating sites. I have been on most with no real sucess.

Offline blackbeauty40

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #6 on: September 16, 2018, 11:50:52 am »
I've connected with several men on the poz website and I have to admit, the pool is really depressing. The last person I met on the site, turned out to be mentally and emotionally abusive among other things. I'm getting older and would like to meet someone special but as time goes on, I'm afraid the chances of that are decreasing everyday.

Offline TabooPrincess

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Re: Such unhopeful encounters on the Poz Personals site.
« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2018, 03:56:20 pm »
Girls why are you limiting yourselves to poz men!? There’s a whole world of men out there! I’ve told 4 men in my time about my status - granted I usually tell men I’m
Not particularly interested in, but they have not given a damn!
Date as any normal person would I say. We shouldn’t think of ourselves as being restricted - yeh, it brings up issues, but simpler ones than narcissists and drug addicts?!
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03/2009 - cd4 844 vl 68846, 35%
06/2009 - cd4 476 vl 49151, 33% (pregnancy confirmed)
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Started meds for pregnancy (Kaletra, AZT, Viread)
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