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Offline ACinKC

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History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« on: December 04, 2006, 11:28:38 AM »
Here is the scoop on the hot guy known as ACinKC........

I posted this info the first day I decided to post.  It is long but hey at least all I had to do was copy and paste!!!  Read on and unravel the riddle that is ACinKC!!!!

Hey guys.  Been lurking here for about 3 months now and finally decided to join the family and tell ya my story. First of all I live in Olathe, Kansas (just outside Kansas City).  I am getting ready to get married in October of this year in Florida to my best friend and soul mate! (More on her later) I have, what most would consider, a good job and a great supportive family here in town.  I have two little girls 4 and 2 who are the light of my life and who I adore every day.  I am certainly not the most eloquent writer on this board and would consider myself more in the mold of a “Matty The Damned” (mad props to you my man! You make me chuckle!)

I am a “mostly” heterosexual (labeling sucks, check my sig line for further details) white guy, 33 years old from the burbs. I was married to my first wife in 1996 and started to live the “life”, good job, nice house, 2.2 kids, 1 dog and a cat.  Starting in 1998 or so, I started to experiment with my sexuality (stupid internet).  From there I got progressively worse with my sexual escapades and finally by 2000 I became a full blown sex addict (mostly men).  It was a vicious cycle I was unable to control or get out of.  In November of 2004 my “secret life” was exposed to my then wife.  I then decided to seek treatment immediately for sexual addiction.  To begin my treatment they administered what I thought was a full blown STD panel that included HIV, it did not.  So, back to the hospital for more blood drawn.  It was then that I got the invite/secret virus to this little club, it was December of 2003. I was VERY lucky to be in treatment with a man who forever helped me and changed my life.  (George if you are out there I love you and thank you)  He found out around the same time that he was HIV positive and he was extremely important in helping me through my initial shock.  Not only did he help me emotionally he was a leading surgeon in his state and helped me out with the science of HIV.   At the time I found out, my then wife was pregnant with our second child, so I was in somewhat of a full blown panic, although I had come to determine the approximate date of my infection (due to going through invitro fertilization, and the testing they do) and the exact date of my seroconversion.  Lucky for ALL involved we hadnt had sex during the time of my initial infection. This was one of the few positive things to come out of this.  With the way I was living my life I am VERY grateful I didn’t infect any of my loved ones, I just don’t know how I could have lived with that. 

Long story LONGER, they reported my status to the state, who then decided to call my house and inform my wife of my status.  Needless to say I was NOT happy.  This is something that I and I alone should have done as it is/was my responsibility.  ANYWAY, we decided, well mostly her (and I can’t blame her) decided, she couldn’t live with a man who has “AIDS” as she put it.  So the divorce began.  By then I was back at work with A LOT on my mind.  My coworkers had figured out that the wife and I were divorcing and me not being a fan of being ALONE decided to start going out.  None of it had really sunk in yet, and I now realize I was definitely hiding in plain sight as they say.  Well about a month later a co-worker decided to introduce me to a friend of hers.  And I am nervous as hell, fist of all  I hadn’t really thought about “seeing” somebody AT ALL.  I pretty much had resigned myself to NO relationships as who would want “tainted goods”.  But, noone other than me really knew my status.  So I decided to go along with it and met her for lunch, then happy hour, then dinner, then a date that weekend!  I could not get enough of this girl!  Everything I ever wanted in a woman and more, if it wasn’t for this blasted disease maybe I could actually be happy.  Well, disclosure was an AWFUL thing to think about and I waited longer than I should have (NEVER put her in jeapordy) to tell, and was completely prepared for her to leave me and all my co-workers to find out, as she was friends with one of them.  To my surprise and UTTER shock, when I told her, she looked at me, both of us crying and said “I am going to need some time to let this sink in, but I love you to much to leave you over this!”  CAN YOU BELIEVE IT!  FIRST PERSON I TOLD!  After reading disclosures on here I now REALLY realize how truly blessed I am to have her.  She is my best friend and my soul mate, the one I live for.  (Wait till you hear how I proposed!  WAAAAAAAAAAY over the top)  It’s true what they say…. “True love is giving someone the power to destroy you, and trusting them not to!” 

Sooooo that pretty much catches you up on the back story!  While I was writing this my ID Doc just called with my new labs.  I just started Truvada/Sustiva about 2 months ago, before that I was on Combivir/Sustiva.  New labs ARE……… 

CD4 %- 36%
Viral Load- Undetectable

Thank you all for reading my “mea maxima culpa”, I hope I haven’t bored you too much.  I really didn’t think it would be THIS LONG!  I have lots of questions and WAY too many opinions to keep my mouth shut so please have patience with me and know that even though I don’t know any of you yet I open my heart to all of you and consider everyone here as family.

Thank you,

I had decided I could not live without this woman just about the same day I disclosed to her!  But after JUST getting out of a bad marriage (albeit I was the bad part, it just wasn’t a good fit) I was a little tentative in opening up with ALL of my secrets.  She hadn’t yet known how I contracted my lovely parting gift and assumed I got it from a woman.  Over the course of the next few weeks my past began to unveil itself.  And this SAINT, big hearted, love of my life, CONTINUED to love me and realized that I had a VERY healthy and slightly outside the norm sexual appetite!  She was totally ok with it all.  I always had thought you had to give something up with women; for example you could have totally hot and intelligent but not sexually adventurous or sexually adventurous but completely off her rocker and unstable makin’ $5.25 at Burger King as the “FRY GIRL”!  I found the golden goose, the pot at the end of the rainbow, my very own SOUL MATE!  So it was then I decided to make plans to woo said maiden right off her feet!  So… when that didn’t work, I bought lots of shiny things and paid her a stipend to stick arou… IM KIDDING!

The Proposal:
First of all I asked her father for her hand in marriage.  He is like a second father to me now and I LOVE her family.  (they do not know my status, and we aren’t sure they need to yet).  After heavy negotiations we decided the price for her hand was 12 camels, 4 AK-47’s and a carton of Pall Mall’s.  I then decided I wanted to do it BIG, not like hot air balloon or stadium scoreboard kind of thing but something totally unique, which fits right along with my personality.  I rented out an entire movie theatre here in Kansas City, actually where we saw our first movie together.  I told her that I had received tickets to a sneak preview of some new movie coming out and wouldn’t it be fun to go.  So we made plans to attend.

For 3 months her best friend and I plot and schemed.  So, we get to the theatre and lo and behold, nobody else is there.  It’s just me and my love sitting in a theatre that seats 50, has recliners and a waitstaff to bring us drinks and the like.  It was then that it started.  I had put together a Power Point presentation that began with what seemed like movie trivia; I revealed to her that the answers laid out to say “Mia will you marry me” at the END of the night.  After the trivia the 20th Century Fox theme and picture with the spotlights comes up so it seems like the movie is starting, we then move to the DREAMWORKS logo cause I just thought that fit PERFECTLY!  At this point she is still totally unsuspecting, we are making idle chit chat and I say “Shhhhh movies starting….”  BAM Up pops a picture of her and me that is absolutely beautiful and over the speakers is playing our song, Kenny Chesney’s “You had me at hello”.  She gasps and her hand flies to her mouth as the tears start cascading down her cheeks, it still brings tears to my eyes.  She was so surprised and happy it was one of the most beautiful things I have seen in my life.  She grabs my hand and gives me this “I love you with all my heart” look in her eyes and turns back to the screen, cause we aint done boys and girls.  For the sake of brevity I will give you an overview of the presentation: as the song continues to play, slides pop up with all of our firsts together, I had snuck around town and taken pictures of me sitting in all the places)  first time I met her, first date, first kiss, first vacation etc. If you really know me you KNOW I cant resist throwing some humor in their, so I took a pic of her parents house and labeled that the first place we made love!  Along with the first time I asked her dad to marry me (He has me in a headlock and is punching me) to the second time I asked him (we are standing there with thumbs up holding an oversized check made out to him for $500!) Also included was a slide of her and I with the saying “True love is giving someone the power to destroy you, and trusting them not to” across the top with the HIV/AIDS ribbon really small in the bottom corners.  I had sent her this saying with 2 dozen roses the day after I disclosed to her.  That was a special slide to her and I.  As the music winds down, the final screen comes up and I get down on one knee, at this point I had planned on saying something extremely eloquent and beautiful but was sobbing so hard I could barely get the words out…. “Mia will you marry me!”  Of course you KNOW the answer was yes!  Who could say no to that!

Story doesn’t end quite yet!  For 3 months her best friend and I had been planning this get together and I secretly invited about 20-30 of our closest friends to surprise her.  After she said yes and we watched the end of the slide show, I said there is one more little surprise for you and it was then I led her out the double doors into the arms of all of our family and friends!  Her parents are in tears, mine are in tears, her and I are in tears, my friends are all like “DAMN how am I supposed to top THAT!”, her friends are all like “OH MY GOD HE IS SOOOO ROMANTIC!” I then let everyone into the theatre to see the presentation first hand.  And it all went swimmingly till the "FIRST PLACE WE MADE LOVE" slide!  Her dad had a heart attack!  It was too funny!  We explained, rather quickly, that it was just a joke! After this we all mingled and went to a celebration dinner and began to plan the rest of our lives together! 

I would do anything for this woman, all she has to do is ask.  The ends of the earth are not my boundaries and time is no limit to the love I have for her!  I love you honey, and I can’t wait to grow old with you!

Ok, im tearing up… time to stop!


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Offline Andy Velez

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #1 on: December 04, 2006, 11:44:13 AM »
WOW! Combined with your wedding photographs, you've given a generous picture of yourself and your life, Andrew.

You deserve a lot of credit for working to clean up your life and make it into something you really want. It's also a great thing to have done for those who love you.

Thanks for letting us know who you are. Now we will get to see what Part 3 is going to be like.

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Offline LatinAlexander

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2006, 03:44:32 PM »
OMG...I am getting teary...But man do not cy.

Just a sec...I am gay...Ok, I can cry!!!


Poz since Jul 19 2006
Initial numbers : CD4-250 VL 3500
First labs after HAART (Dec 04-2006) : CD4-432 VL-<40 (Undetectable)  cd4%=25.11%
Started HAART: Combivir+Efavirenz Aug 26 7:38 pm
Feb 08 2007 - Gradually stopping HAART cause of Myalgia. Protecting Efavirenz. Stopped Efavirenz, ahead with Combivir....
February 17 Combivir stopped.
April 3 -07 : Started ddi+3tc+efavirenz...
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Offline Longislander

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #3 on: December 04, 2006, 05:51:30 PM »
ok, my keyboards a bit wet.
infected 10/05 diagnosed 12-05
2/06   379/57000                    6/07 372/30500 25%   4/09 640/U/32% 
5/06   ?? /37000                     8/07 491/55000/24%    9/09 913/U/39%
8/06   349/9500 25%              11/07 515/68000/24     2/10 845/U/38%
9/06   507/16,000 30% !          2/08  516/116k/22%    7/10 906/80/39%
12/06 398/29000 26%             Start Atripla 3/08
3/07   402/80,000 29%            4/08  485/undet!/27
4/07   507/35,000 25%            7/08 625/UD/34%
                                                 11/08 684/U/36%

Offline Queen Tokelove

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #4 on: December 04, 2006, 07:18:32 PM »

I'm too bitchy to shed a tear but your romantic proposal made a mist come to my eyes. I have never seen anything so romantic....Congrats...
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Offline poet

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #5 on: December 04, 2006, 07:32:26 PM »
I think I can turn down or turn off the romantic Christmas music now and simply reread your post in emotion filled silence.  Thank you so much for sharing your life with us.  Best, Win
Winthrop Smith has published three collections of poetry: Ghetto: From The First Five; The Weigh-In: Collected Poems; Skin Check: New York Poems.  The last was published in December 2006.  He has a work-in-progress underway titled Starting Positions.

Offline Eldon

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Re: History of my World Parts 1 and 2
« Reply #6 on: December 04, 2006, 08:21:59 PM »
Hey ACinKC,

Wow! and Congrats man.

Happy Holidays!

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