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Author Topic: Looking for some help/advice  (Read 2902 times)

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Offline kettl

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Looking for some help/advice
« on: January 27, 2015, 06:19:11 pm »
I recently found out that someone extremely close to me tested positive for HIV. He and the family had a counselor, however due to studying abroad I wasn't able to go through this with them. I feel helpless and lonely. I cannot sleep at night, waking up in panic attacks because I am scared of the worst that could happen to him and the effects it will have on the whole family. I guess I am just looking for resources, or anyone to talk to who has been/are going through this or similar situations. Please anything will be of help. Thanks.

Offline zach

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Re: Looking for some help/advice
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2015, 06:53:23 pm »
I'm sorry about their diagnosis, and can totally understand the fear you have right now.

I hope that I can reassure you, they are going to OK. It takes time, they'll need moral support, but it gets better.

With medical care, nothing about their quality of life will be compromised.

Offline AT

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  • Take your meds, keep your chin up and enjoy life.
Re: Looking for some help/advice
« Reply #2 on: January 27, 2015, 08:12:04 pm »
I would say "constant contact" via emails, voicemails and lots of listening if you talk. This isn't about problem solving so much as it is a lifeline to hope. I was diagnosed in October and I brought only one person onto "my team" besides medical, other hivvers and my case worker. That one person was a dear friend and she lives 700 miles away. We chatted by text online every day until I joined the 21st century and began Skyping with her. Then I visibly cried and cried and cried. She actually flew to be with me and led me in guided breathing and relaxation. Wow, I can't believe the support from my dearest friend. I would say just try to be there and educate yourself on the importance of taking meds plus any other medical care so you can affirm these things. I believe peace will come to both of you. It's slowly coming my way.

Offline Tonny2

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Re: Looking for some help/advice
« Reply #3 on: January 27, 2015, 08:26:33 pm »
I recently found out that someone extremely close to me tested positive for HIV. He and the family had a counselor, however due to studying abroad I wasn't able to go through this with them. I feel helpless and lonely. I cannot sleep at night, waking up in panic attacks because I am scared of the worst that could happen to him and the effects it will have on the whole family. I guess I am just looking for resources, or anyone to talk to who has been/are going through this or similar situations. Please anything will be of help. Thanks.

      ojo       Hi Ketti...I think you can help this loveone, by getting yourself informed about the virus, there are some lesson in here, this site...your love one will be fine, maybe she/he may want to join us, it will make him/her feel better but, more importantly, he/she, will learn a lot and maybe even want to share his/her story...best of luck....hugs      ojo

Offline kettl

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Re: Looking for some help/advice
« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2015, 08:32:56 pm »
Thank you so much for more insight on what I am struggling with. I hope others will find this helpful too. I wish you all the best in your journeys. -Lauren

 


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