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Offline crackboot2015

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Really worried!!
« on: November 12, 2019, 08:33:19 am »
Friends, am new here! And am really worried!! Anxiety is killing me day by day!! Please help. Here is my story.
Had encounter with a girl at a strip club. We kissed(deep) and she did handjob on me. No Vagainal or oral sex. This was sometime in July. I had a mouth ulcer on my tounge at tht time :-( !! Had another encounter, another girl in September mid. Same - deep kissing, BJ with condom,, hand job. No vagainal sex. After tht encounter, very next day, I got cold and cough. It was not very bad. It was bad for 1 day and then got better. I was fully recovered in 3 days. But i was already worried tht am HIV positive. After those 3 days, I started having dry mouth. Started reading online and it said dry mouth is a symptom of hiv. Then the paranoia began!! Since then, am living a half life!! My very good friend who is a doctor said am absolutely fine and I have nothing but anxiety which is causing my dry mouth. But am still super worried. Something else happened in the meanwhile. Since my doc said am ok, we continued trying for a baby. Now, my wife has late period!!!she was supposed to mensurate on the 20th,  now it’s already 11th. She’s not pregnant. Wht changed was she was a very sedantary person, but started working out hard. So it could be tht. But I also read hiv delayed periods!! She injured her shoulder during work out and now having a “joint pain”. No other symptoms. I’ve also had no other symptoms after tht. Dry mouth is still there which I still don’t know if it’s anxiety or something else. Am too worried to get tested!! Can someone please throw some light on my situation. Am really worried and the anxiety is killing me day after day!

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Re: Really worried!!
« Reply #1 on: November 12, 2019, 08:42:57 am »
Hiya

What you posted about those encounters is simply not how HIV can be transmitted to you. So, you had no HIV risk and your symptoms are unrelated to HIV from these encounters.

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we continued trying for a baby

Good luck with trying for a baby, I wish you both the very best.  Obvious perhaps, but if I don't point this out it would be wrong, so if you have been engaging in unprotected intercourse with your partner or plan to do so this would meet all the biological conditions needed for acquiring HIV.

Now I don't judge couples that decide to engage in unprotected intercourse, it's often based on trust within a relationship, however, just note this trust or faith does not prevent HIV and any unprotected intercourse is simply accepting a possible risk to you of acquiring HIV. Test regularly, understand your real risks.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid HIV infection:
Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, every time, no exceptions. Consider starting PrEP as an additional layer of HIV protection going forward

Keep in mind that some sexual practices which may be described as ‘safe’ in terms of HIV transmission might still pose a risk for transmission of other STI's, so please do get fully tested regularly and at least yearly for all STI's including but not limited to HIV and test more frequently if unprotected intercourse occurs

Also, note that it is possible to have an STI and show no signs or symptoms and the only way of knowing is by testing.

More information on HIV Basics, PEP, TaSP and Transmission can be found through the links in my signature to our POZ pages

Kind regards

Jim

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Re: Really worried!!
« Reply #2 on: November 12, 2019, 09:49:18 am »
Thanks a lot for the quick reply. So am fine here? The small 3 day flu like attack was no seroconversion? Also my partner is ok? Late mensuration cannot be a first symptom of hiv?
Unprotected sex - yes, totally ageee with you. I stopped having relationship with other partners now and I will never break the trust in the relationship.

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Re: Really worried!!
« Reply #3 on: November 12, 2019, 10:13:43 am »
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The small 3 day flu like attack was no seroconversion?

Not from the encounters posted here as they simply were not HIV risks.

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Also my partner is ok? Late mensuration cannot be a first symptom of hiv?

Late mensuration will happen at least a few times over a lifetime to nearly all women regardless of HIV status.

I don't know your partners current HIV status. If your partner or you have been engaging in unprotected intercourse, even with each other then you both accept the HIV risk that comes with that.

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