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Offline Theycallthislife

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The start of a new life with a twist
« on: November 15, 2014, 08:43:54 pm »
So I'm reaching out on here for some support and advice.

So me and my husband recently got married to start our life together from a long distance relationship. Once my husband got under my insurance he went to the doctor and they decided to do a routine STD/HIV check. A few weeks later we got a call from the doctor that he should come in with me. We didn't think that it was HIV. We thought it was just something little. Turns out he was HIV+. Just to toss it out there it turns out he came into contact with an HIV+ guy before and thought he may have contacted it. He took an oral swab test and it came back negative. Accounting to our doctor they aren't great for right off the bat testing. Please get a blood test. I got my test done to see if I was positive as well. But I'm still negative as of now.

He made it very clear that he didn't want anyone to know or for this to change his life. So I don't have anyone to talk to about this... Kinda why I'm reaching out on here. He talks to his mother about it (she's also a nurse). But I don't have anyone to vent to and it's slowly killing me. So I'm looking for others that's partners are positive but you are still negative. What should I prepare myself for? What's going to happen? What do you guys do... Is sex still an option? Is there an easy choice with life insurance for HIV+?

Thank you all for the support,
TheyCallThisLife


Offline Jeff G

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #1 on: November 15, 2014, 08:54:12 pm »
Welcome to the forum . There is a lot of information and support here so I hope we can address some of your concerns and get you the information you need to be comfortable and secure having sex with your partner . HIV is transmitted from unprotected anal and vaginal sex so as long as you use condoms correctly and consistently you will be OK .
These are some links I think you will find helpful
http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/Transmission_9927.shtml
http://www.aidsmeds.com/articles/Transmission_17146.shtml
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HIV TasP
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Offline Theycallthislife

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2014, 09:01:56 pm »
Thank you,

I'm currently on travada to help keep me negative but that's only a 75% protection rate. Since the diagnosis we have tried to refrain from sex or use a condom if we do. But has anyone been taking travada for an extended time? Have you had any problems while on it?

Offline zach

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2014, 09:03:04 pm »
can you talk to his mother if you need to be able to vent? like jeff said, with education, and with prevention, you can protect yourself. with treatment, your husband will fine.

sex is an option. go get it out of the way. wear a condom, enjoy.

Offline Jeff G

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #4 on: November 15, 2014, 09:07:39 pm »
If you are adherent PrEP is very effective … much better than you seem to think .

PrEP only works if you take it. Data from the iPrEx trial show that daily adherence reduces HIV risk between 96 percent and greater than 99 percent. Those who took four doses a week remained fully protected, and those who took two lowered their chance of getting HIV by 76 percent

http://www.poz.com/factsheets/fs_2014_09_prep.pdf
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HIV TasP
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HIV prevention
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Offline zach

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #5 on: November 15, 2014, 09:07:58 pm »
75%? where'd you get that?

i got 92% from the CDC http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/prevention/research/prep/

add that with a reliably undetectable viral load in the positive partner, and proper condom use

your risk is approaching nil, mathematically improbable and nearly impossible in real world

Offline Theycallthislife

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #6 on: November 15, 2014, 09:18:30 pm »
I'm not that close with his mother and she still gets emotional while talking about it. I would like to have a friend to talk to but he doesn't want anyone to know and I respect that.

I also had a question on treatment... Last week he accidentally took his morning as evening pill at once and within 30 mins was nauseous and vomiting. Our doctor told him to skip his pm dose that night and start again the following morning. He got I'll again that morning as well but he seems to be fine after taking them now. The doctor thinks maybe his body is rejecting the treatment and maybe start him on something new. But I know with missing or changing medication can cause the virus to become resistant to meds.

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Sorry I got 75% from my doctor. But that's good to know that's there's a much better protect rate since they have me on travada daily

I know you guys probably aren't doctors but just asking if anyone has had this happen? He's currently on travada & Isentress

Offline Jeff G

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #7 on: November 15, 2014, 09:21:55 pm »
It can take a few weeks for the body to get used to the meds sometimes. If for some reason he doesn't settle into this combo there are others he can go to … give it some time .
HIV 101 - Basics
HIV 101
You can read more about Transmission and Risks here:
HIV Transmission and Risks
You can read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
You can read more about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read more about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
You can read more about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

Offline zach

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #8 on: November 15, 2014, 09:45:56 pm »
i'm on the same meds your husband is on

don't double dose, of course he puked

take his pills roughly the same time everyday

give it a week or two to see if things get better, it takes a minute, this is some serious meds we're subjecting out bodies to

keep a daily log, notes of how things go

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #9 on: November 15, 2014, 10:43:37 pm »
You are assuming things that are false.  75% effective rate was false. Or at least a bad case scenario.
"changing meds can cause the virus to become resistant" = false.
Where are you getting this stuff?

People can change meds under doctor's supervision and for a variety of reasons. But yeah its more delicate when someone is just starting meds.

Furthermore, someone can take 1 day - 1 truvada and 2 isentress and feel no ill effects.  But yeah, it takes people awhile to get used to being on 3 drug combo.  Have you had any effects from Truvada, by the way?

I am checking now:  Truvada is once a day, you know. And isentress 2x.  (They haven't given the ok for taking the 3 pills at one time yet.  But unofficial reports show it works but this is for people with long undetectable status. I did it for about 6 months and it never made me sick to take the 3 pills at once.)

I am just checking that he is only taking 1 truvada a day, not 2.

Also, maybe he should join the Forum??


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Offline Theycallthislife

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Re: The start of a new life with a twist
« Reply #10 on: November 16, 2014, 05:09:21 am »
All these facts are coming from Landstuhl Regional Medical in Germany.

He is taking the travada once a day and the isentress twice.

I have told him to try out this site and forum but he doesn't seem to want to at this point. We have a lot going on right now. With me trying to get a reassignment back to the states so he can receive better treatment. I think he will be more likely to joint once we get settled in the states.

 


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