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Offline anniemae

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So worried
« on: August 16, 2014, 09:07:00 PM »
Hey everyone. I am so nervous that I have HIV. I received oral sex from a guy and gave him two blow jobs about three weeks apart. I am thinking about worse case scenario....I had cuts in my mouth, he has a super high viral load, etc. I know they say oral is low risk but I'm having tons of symptoms. A rash, mouth sores, headaches and super sore armpits (lymph nodes?). Please tell me I am overreacting?

Offline Joe K

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Re: So worried
« Reply #1 on: August 16, 2014, 09:12:37 PM »
Oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.  HIV is a very fragile virus that cannot live outside of the body.  When HIV is exposed to air, changes in temperature and pH alter the HIV and render it unable to infect.  The mouth is another barrier in that it contains over a dozen proteins and enzymes that alter the HIV and render it unable to infect.

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV.  Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!


Offline anniemae

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Re: So worried
« Reply #2 on: August 16, 2014, 09:24:07 PM »
Why do most sites say it is a risk then?

Offline Joe K

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Re: So worried
« Reply #3 on: August 16, 2014, 09:32:10 PM »
Why do most sites say it is a risk then?

We are not responsible for what other sites may say about oral sex.  We base our assessments on the latest peer reviewed medical studies.  There are some instances, where oral sex may be a risk of transmission, but that involves poor dental hygiene, such as "meth mouth."  Since there were no extraordinary circumstances in your situation involving oral sex, you did not have a risk.


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Re: So worried
« Reply #4 on: August 17, 2014, 08:51:08 AM »
Fortunately doubts and fears are not facts. The facts as you have reported them are that you did not do anything risky for HIV. Joe's given you the real deal. You are worrying needlessly.

Get on with your life.
Andy Velez

Offline anniemae

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Re: So worried
« Reply #5 on: August 18, 2014, 09:39:51 AM »
Im sorry but I have one more question. I've looked at some of the studies you mention and none had people with high viral loads. If he had just been infected they say the viral load could be as high as 40 million....even then would you say I still had no risk?

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Re: So worried
« Reply #6 on: August 18, 2014, 10:10:07 AM »
We do not respond to what if questions because that gets into the realm of guessing . If you are uneasy then go test, if this is your only concern your test will be negative . You did not have a risk for HIV but if it makes you feel better then test . 
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