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What's My Risk
« on: August 04, 2014, 01:02:02 AM »
Hi all-

To preface this, I have recurrent gingivitis, which makes my gums bleed when I brush sometimes. I've always had this, regardless of how much I brush, floss, Listerine, etc.

Since March, I've had several encounters. I give and get head a few times a month, and one time in March, I was topping and the condom broke due to not enough lube. I accidentally came inside the other guy (I didn't realize). He seemed kind of freaked out, but he insisted he did not have HIV.

I always have anal with a condom. I top 99% of the time. I can count on two fingers how many people I have bottomed for.

The last time I gave head (and topped for that matter) was in mid-July.

About a week later, I got a localized sore throat to one side of my throat. It lasted about 24 hours. The lymph node on that side was really swollen, but subsided quickly after the sore throat died down. The lymph node on the other side was fine. Since then, I've had this vague tingling in my tongue, inside of my cheek and hard and soft palates. There's nothing visibly wrong that I can see. It basically goes away when I'm not thinking about it.

I also have a rash on my face. It started around the same time - between my eyebrows. It started off flaky. Now it's crept down around my nose and cheeks. It's splotchy, red and flaky on my cheeks. It's just flaky around my nose and between my eyebrows. There are no bumps. I also have something similar on my penis, but I think that may be chaffing. Moisturizer helps the flakiness, not so much the redness. It also stings somewhat when I apply the cream - which may be a sign it's dry... but it's pretty hot and humid where I am right now.

I have no fever, chills, fatigue, or muscle aches, or have I for the past several months.

Due to my gingivitis, I'm kind of freaking out. So what's the chance this is ARS?

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Re: What's My Risk
« Reply #1 on: August 04, 2014, 02:43:57 AM »
I also want to state that during all of my adventures, I never had cum in my mouth, but I have had precum in my mouth.

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Re: What's My Risk
« Reply #2 on: August 04, 2014, 05:10:22 AM »
The tingling you are experiencing, along with the flaky skin, are not symptoms of infection.  If you are having unprotected sexual intercourse, you need to test about every 3-6 months.  Receiving oral is not a risk, plus giving oral.  People who have a risk of getting infected this way have horrible oral hygiene, similar to people with meth mouth.  When you give oral, the saliva has many enzymes that protect against infection.

If you are sexually active, you not only need to test for HIV regularly, you should have a full STI check up on a regular basis.  Some STI's are much easier to get than HIV. 

Since you have regular sexual activity, you need to use condoms every time for anal or vaginal sex.  If you use these consistently and correctly, you should expect to test negative for HIV.  You should continue to use the condoms until you are in a monogamous relationship, and both you and your partner go together for an HIV test, and a full STI check up. 

While we can answer a lot of questions about possible infection, we do not predict someone's risk.  The only way to know is to test.  However, people who top tend to have a lower rate of infection than people who bottom.  If you are using condoms every time you have sexual intercourse, you should expect to test negative.


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Re: What's My Risk
« Reply #3 on: August 04, 2014, 09:37:18 AM »
Betty is correct . You can test for HIV at 6 weeks past any possible exposure of unprotected anal or vaginal sex and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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