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Offline santigold

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« on: June 09, 2014, 06:47:54 AM »
I just wanted to post on here because I'm having a pretty hard time. I'm going to get pretty explicit with my explanation in the interest of full disclosure, so stop reading now if you don't want to know gritty details.

About two weeks ago I was at a bathhouse. Long story short, I ended up barebacking a guy (I was the top) after we used the one condom I had been carrying around. He couldn't get hard and then we were fooling around. Heat of the moment, etc. etc. In retrospect I realised I didn't even use lube. He wasn't tight and I think he had had sex with several people before we ended up hooking up. I started getting really nervous immediately after we finished. It seems like he barebacks A LOT. I asked him when he got checked and he said on April 1st ( :/ ) which was about two months before and that he was clean. When we showered off I saw some rashes on his chest and although I know you can't diagnose hiv by symptoms, I  was nervous that it might be a sign of acute HIV.

I was so torn about starting PEP because I cannot afford to miss work, and I had heard that the symptoms can be brutal. I went to the doctor and got the meds around 62 hours after, thinking that I would hate myself if it turned out I had been infected and I didn't do everything I could. I'm about two weeks in and have been taking the meds at about the same time plus or minus an hour or two (sometime between 10 and 12 am/pm). Last night I fell asleep before I could take them and when I woke up I took them right away (7:30). The side effects have been practically non-existentent, but I really felt them when I took my second dose around 2.

I guess I just needs some words of encouragement/advice/insight/anything that might help. How much riskier is it if there is the chance that there was another persons cum inside him? How exact should I be with the timing of the meds. When will I really have a good idea of wether or not I am infected. Is it the test three weeks after I finish the treatment? Thanks for reading and any info that might help.

Offline Jeff G

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« Reply #1 on: June 09, 2014, 08:30:37 AM »
We can not accurately quantify your risk so we will leave it that you did have one, as ypu already know . PEP extends the testing window period to 6 weeks past the last dose and any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm it . There are no shortcuts to HIV testing .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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