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risky encounter eight weeks ago.
« on: May 30, 2014, 04:03:26 AM »
Hi Jeff, Ann, and everyone.

I was hoping to get your advice if I may. I had a risky unprotected encounter with a girl around eight weeks ago and I'm really worried. I was nervous and couldn't get aroused so she gave me oral, trying to make me hard which didn't really work that well, but then she goes and puts my penis inside her regardless!! It was a rabbit in car headlights kind of a moment...I froze and left it in there for about a minute (stupidly) no condom, while she basically gyrated..did her thing. I stopped her and said enough and left feeling mortified at what she had done. I don't know her status or how many partners she may have had. I've tried contacting her to find out but to no avail. I am beside myself with worry right now because I know for certain that she has given me an STD, possibly gonorrhea or chlamydia, because I had a thick white discharge from the end of my penis when I went to pee a few days after my encounter, and I feel really uncomfortable between my legs right now. Also, about 10 days afterwards, I developed a sore throat, night sweats...a very hot face...and now I've developed a dry cough and a really bad chest. Doesn't having gonorrhea or chlamydia increase my chances of contracting HIV? I should have gotten tested sooner but I've been too afraid to. Instead, I've been trawling HIV websites religiously for two months, trying to learn as much about the disease as I can. I want to get tested but can't for another two weeks due to being away with work. If I test at ten weeks and it's positive, does that constitute late diagnosis? I'm so worried right now that I can't concentrate on anything else. Any advice, Jeff or Ann or anyone,  that you can give me would be really appreciated. Oh one last thing...a helpline that I rang said that even though I had a risk, it is a low risk...is that true? I wasn't comforted by that to be honest, probably because of my bad chest, which I've had for a number of weeks, feels like I've been smoking about 50 cigarettes a day and it's not getting any better. (I'm a none smoker!) So sorry for the epistle, I know a test is the only way to find out my status...just so worried and needed to share with someone before I have a nervous breakdown!! Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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Re: risky encounter eight weeks ago.
« Reply #1 on: May 30, 2014, 05:12:33 AM »

If you "know" you have gonorrhea or chlamydia, why haven't you gone ASAP to your nearest GUM clinic and get treated? Untreated gonorrhea and chlamydia can cause you serious problems down the line, infertility and a form of arthritis included. GUM clinic testing and treatment is free and completely confidential, so you've go no excuse. GO.

If you contracted either of these bacterial infections from the encounter you're worried about, it did NOT increase your risk. It would only increase your risk if you already had an infection before the encounter. It IS possible to have either and have absolutely no symptoms.

Regarding hiv, you have had a risk and you do need to test, although your risk is on the low end of the spectrum. Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man. While you're not likely to end up hiv positive over this brief incident, you still need to test to be absolutely sure.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

For you, this means you can test now to ease your mind, and confirm a negative result at the end of June. You need to go to your nearest GUM clinic (usually in your local hospital) ASAP and get that gonorrhea/chlamydia checked out, so you may as well test for hiv while you're at it.

You'd be wise to also test for syphilis.

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