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Author Topic: Please help, I'm freaking out  (Read 1016 times)

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Offline Bryan89

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Please help, I'm freaking out
« on: May 27, 2014, 06:30:10 PM »
I behaved very badly this last weekend. I stupidly exposed myself to a number of high-risk situations and now I can't sleep over this.

On Friday I paid a male escort for his services. I was just curious what it was like to pay someone for sex. I barely even fucked him (apparently he doesn't bottom much, so he couldn't do it) but with a condom, even though he insisted on not using one. I've never had anal without a condom; however, I was stupid enough to blow him without a condom a few minutes earlier and I tasted some precum. I would never have done that if I had known he was a barebacker. I was also stupid enough to finger him without any protection to try to open him up a bit....then since I couldn't really fuck him and I didn't even get off, I walked across the street to a gay bathhouse...where I blew another two guys without a condom. Then on Saturday apparently I hadn't had enough and I went back to that bathhouse, where I blew another guy and fucked him with a condom.

The scary part is that on Sunday I developed a pretty bad flu/cold. I'm terrified because apparently most people experience a bad cold/flu after they get infected with HIV. What would you recommend me to do? Should I try to get some PrEP or maybe run and get tested? I'm really freaking out over this. This "post-infection" flu...does it happen right away? Does it only last for a couple of days? I'm hoping beyond hope that I just kissed a guy who had a cold.

I'm really not like this all the time...before this past weekend the last time I was with a guy was in February...and before that it was like 2011. I can't help but regret everything that I did this past weekend, especially with the male escort. But what's done is done...

Please help.

PS: I have mind tonsillitis...does that increase the chances of HIV being transmitted through oral sex?
« Last Edit: May 27, 2014, 06:47:36 PM by Bryan89 »

Offline Joe K

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Re: Please help, I'm freaking out
« Reply #1 on: May 27, 2014, 06:55:58 PM »

Nothing you did put you at risk for HIV infection.  You used condoms for penetrative sex and oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.  You do not need PEP for this incident as you never had a risk.

As for oral sex, HIV is a very fragile virus and becomes damaged once it leaves the body and is unable to infect.  The mouth is another barrier because it contains various proteins and enzymes that alter HIV and render it unable to infect.

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV.  Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!



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