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Author Topic: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing  (Read 1561 times)

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Offline RobbyR

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Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« on: May 25, 2014, 06:20:59 PM »
Just wanted to put out there, if anyone knows someone who has a hearing loss of some kind, support them. Or if you encounter anyone who is hard of hearing, don't mock them or shout at them if they can't hear you. I suffer from mild to moderate hearing loss and don't hear this talked about much & I continue to experience bullshit bullying attitudes about it. So I'm jut aking if anyone know omeone who has a hearing loss or is deaf, support them & educate those around them. It's the best thing you can do. I have experienced horrible
teasing & rude comments for years
about mine recently I went for a job
interview & was waiting in waiting area
after being checked in by security. The security guy forgot to give me my badge & I didn't hear him from the waiting room apparently he had called me several times. Finally some girl came & got me & he gave me my badge. But what pissed me off was that he was smiling & the girl was smiling too it was obviou they had been laughing about it.

Well it wasn't funny to me. I ask, what if YOU had a hearing loss & someone made fun of you for it. It doesn't feel good. But I don't expect ignorant fucks to get that.

I am getting a hearing aid soon so that will help me, but I wanted to mention this so if an of you encounter someone in your life who is hard of hearing or doesn't hear well, don't laugh at it or scream at the person of they ak you to repeat yourself. Use some common courtesy. Tjanks for listening.
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Offline emeraldize

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Re: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« Reply #1 on: May 25, 2014, 11:34:25 PM »
I'm sorry you were treated shabbily by the guard and glad to read you 're getting a hearing aid soon. You remind us to be mindful of things you can't see.

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Re: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« Reply #2 on: May 26, 2014, 08:03:09 AM »
living with my mom and her husband (before he died last sept) I was constantly fussing at him. Mom has had hearing issues and hearing aids for decades. Why he wouldn't enunciate better, speak louder when addressing her, or have some patience repeating things she might not have heard was beyond me. Mom wasn't stupid, hateful or simply ignoring him, she simply couldn't hear him. You would think that living with her and knowing about her hearing problem, after 28 yrs, he would have understood better how to deal with someone with hearing issues.

some people, even those who live with people with hearing issues, are simply ignorant jerks. Maybe after you get this job (fingers crossed) you can file a report about your experience with the guard's boss. ;)

good luck with getting your hearing aids. sometimes it's difficult get them adjusted to fit right, look right, and work right; but keep working with the audiologist until you get things working so you can hear  ;)
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Offline mecch

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Re: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« Reply #3 on: May 26, 2014, 11:38:24 AM »
Robby - its sounds very frustrating.
I am assuming you are proactive about this when you think to be.  Meaning letting people know you are hard of hearing so that it gives them a chance to interact accordingly.
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Re: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« Reply #4 on: May 26, 2014, 12:32:10 PM »
People can be very thoughtless in dealing with people who are hearing impaired . People have made fun of me many times because I can't hear well at all when there is background noise around ... its annoying when that happens .

Thanks for sharing Robby .
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Offline wolfter

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Re: Have Compassion For The Hard-Of Hearing
« Reply #5 on: May 27, 2014, 10:07:45 AM »
Is it possible you're projecting a bit?  Sometimes what we perceive isn't the reality. 

I've been hearing impaired since childhood and it worsened after my bout of meningitis.  I regained enough hearing to function but it'll never be crisp and clear.  I'm not a candidate for hearing aids.  I mastered reading lips but it led to many funny circumstances as a teen.  Sometimes people I didn't know thought I was mocking them as my lips moved in sync with what they were saying.

I finally managed to stop that.  :)  I've never allowed this to define or dictate me.  I receive regular cues when I'm around family and friends.  "inside voice" indicates that I'm overly animated and loud.  Hands up means I'm speaking too softly. 

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