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Author Topic: A few weeks of really risky behavior  (Read 1312 times)

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A few weeks of really risky behavior
« on: March 31, 2014, 08:36:20 AM »
I'm going to to go test in the next week or so, but this past month has been the riskiest month of my life.

45 yo bi sexual male who's always been extremely safe. Last tested negative about 2 years ago.

About a month ago I was on business and had an encounter and topped a guy raw for the first time in my life.  I did not cum inside, but used hypoallergenic lotion as a lube which I hear may not be such a good idea.  It felt amazing and I could not control myself.  I quickly washed my uncut penis and applied  purel -   I know none of that guarantees anything.  I then had a few other encounters like this with two other guys where I only dipped it a for a few minutes before putting on a condom.  My risky behavior was mostly the result of some depression after losing a friend and a divorce.

Anyways, a bit nervous about testing and have been waiting for some time to get tested.

I had these questions, more on the curious/ What if? side of things.

As I've grown older it seems quality of sex without a condom vs with one is increasingly better and so my temptation to not be completely safe is becoming more and more difficult. Any advice?  I'm planning a trip to Thailand and am dreading the temptations I will face. Any Advice?

Any tops in here contract HIV from a single encounter like this?  I ask because this HIV+ bottom told me he was being topped raw by a guy for 8 years and that guy never contracted.

For those that have HIV, how real is re-infection and superinfection real? How does that work, your levels can be low and brought up from another infection?  Seriously, do HIV positive guys always play safe to protect from re-infection?

How big of difference is it have contracted HIV before 2000 vs now.  Does having HIV for many worsen the condition or treatment, or does person contracting the disease  today fair just as well as somebody who's had it for 10 years now?

How difficult is it to reverse AIDs to HIV?

In the US, what factors determine cost of treatment?  I'm doing well now, but was planning early retirement on a fixed budget with no new income and was wondering what it would cost me to get good treatment if I were on the lower end of the income spectrum?

How big of deal is it to 50lbs overweight with HIV? How about casual drinking? a six pack of light beers and 4 whiskeys over a week?

And I'm sorry about this stupid and irresponsible (but honest) question.  Possible for a 45 year old to live a completely sexual reckless and hedonistic life, eat way too much fat, sugar and salt,  drink more than average, not exercise,  but take  HIV meds and live to be 70 if he contracts the disease today?  I had a friend die at 49 the other day from a heart attack leaving behind his wife and kids...  nothing HIV related, he looked fine and was just a little fat and did not exercise... my first thought was, I hope he had fun and lived his life without too many limits or fears.  I'll tell you this, if you told me my number would be 50, I know what I would do with the next 5 years and it's not sky diving. :)

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Re: A few weeks of really risky behavior
« Reply #1 on: March 31, 2014, 09:03:14 AM »
You do not want HIV . You are putting yourself in danger each and every time you top a guy unprotected and will end up with HIV . Thailand has one of the most high rates of HIV in the world so you need to do whatever you need to do to get the thought out of your head that becoming HIV positive is inevitable or you will become infected in short order .

Some of what you are asking is highly technical and too much to go into here with a 3 question limit but be warned that treating HIV is very expensive and there are no guarantees that you will survive even if you can access treatment . You would also have limitations on where and when you can go places . I bet my healthcare all told is in excess of a 100 K a year . Please see a therapist or councilor before its too late . Many people die of Aids every day and you don't want to be one of them . Its a gruesome painful slow death .

You can test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results . 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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