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Offline givenachance43

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coping with being alone
« on: March 27, 2014, 03:20:06 AM »
i just found out in December i was poz and my world cam crashing down on me never thought it would happen to me but it did, im done with the self pity and the crying whoever said a grown man want cry told a lie,so now im ready to live life new on this site and just dont want to be alone lol

Offline mitch777

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Re: coping with being alone
« Reply #1 on: March 28, 2014, 12:43:47 PM »
Hi given!

A good cry is healthy at times. It's just part of being human and has nothing to do with what sex organs we were born with. Most everyone here has had that crashing down moment or moments so you are in good company here with others that understand.

Hanging onto feelings of despair is another matter but I can tell by your post that you are moving forward!  :) There may be emotional setbacks now and again but they too will pass. Guess that's just the way it works unless one is a robot.

Welcome to the forum and looking forward to hearing more from you!


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Offline Theyer

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Re: coping with being alone
« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2014, 01:25:44 PM »
It is now a very good emotional workout for me , though I understand the shock and confusion when after many years dry you find yourself crying as in childhood  .

If you can accept it , I suspect that after awhile you won,t give it a second thought and actually feel the better for it.

Just part off the human process.
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Offline givenachance43

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Re: coping with being alone
« Reply #3 on: March 29, 2014, 12:50:15 AM »
Mitch and Theyer thanks for the comments yeah its kinda hard but im gonna make its life and im dealing with it just need to get out of this small town im in and get the support i need like groups or just a good friend thank you both

Offline Ann

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Re: coping with being alone
« Reply #4 on: March 29, 2014, 05:14:01 AM »
Hi Given, welcome to the forums.

Well, you've got us now, even if you don't have anyone else. We're here for you.

How are you doing otherwise? What are you numbers like and are you considering treatment, or already started?

Hang in there. You're going to be ok.

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Offline Theyer

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Re: coping with being alone
« Reply #5 on: March 29, 2014, 05:43:53 AM »
So where have you always wanted to live?
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