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Received oral immediately after two other people
« on: March 19, 2014, 07:42:27 PM »
Like the others whose posts I've been reading here, I'm quite anxious right now, to the point of panic.

This happened about three weeks ago.

I had shaved my penis shortly before this encounter and sometimes when I shave I leave small cuts on the shaft. I then received oral in a group sex setting, from a female who had performed oral on 2-3 guys before me. These guys were complete strangers, I'd no idea of their sexual histories or potential for infection.

What are the chances that the residual seamen in her mouth could have infected me through the possible cuts on my penis while I was receiving oral?

Afterwards I immediately washed myself with warm water and soap, not that that'd actually do much, but thought I'd include the detail. I didn't see any obvious cuts on my penis but there very well could have been small ones.

I'm sick right now, which hasn't helped with my anxiety over this. My lymph nodes do not feel swollen (though my neck is sore enough just from me checking every other minute). I have headaches and had sore teeth yesterday, and a bit of fatigue today. Not terribly unlike head colds I've had in the past. No ostensible fever and I still have my normal (voracious) appetite.

I'm going to get tested, just to be safe, either way. I'm also going to get a full test to make sure I didn't get anything else from this encounter. Stupid mistake on my part, to be so damn careless.
« Last Edit: March 19, 2014, 07:44:52 PM by scullen9 »

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Re: Received oral immediately after two other people
« Reply #1 on: March 19, 2014, 07:50:45 PM »
Scullen, you are worrying needlessly about HIV. Getting oral is a very ordinary sexual event. The most common in fact. And in the entire history of the epidemic no matter what the details, no guy has ever been proven to have been infected from getting head. You are not going to make history by becoming the first.

There's no need for HIV testing. Your symptoms are not about HIV and if they continue you should discuss them with your doctor.

You do need to know that other STDs are much easier to acquire. Consequently we advise that anyone who is sexually active ought to at least annually if not every six months have a full STD panel done.

Whatever is going with you this time it has nothing to do with HIV. 
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Re: Received oral immediately after two other people
« Reply #2 on: March 19, 2014, 08:15:26 PM »
I know the transmission from oral isn't a risk, but I was worried about a possible seamen-to-blood transmission (though I've read that saliva enzymes destroy HIV).

Thanks, Andy. That gives me peace of mind. I'm finding my cold symptoms have somewhat diminished in the last 15 minutes. All in my head.

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Re: Received oral immediately after two other people
« Reply #3 on: March 19, 2014, 08:18:10 PM »
I know the transmission from oral isn't a risk, but I was worried about a possible seamen-to-blood transmission (though I've read that saliva enzymes destroy HIV).

Thanks, Andy. That gives me peace of mind. I'm finding my cold symptoms have somewhat diminished in the last 15 minutes. All in my head.

You can move past this concern now . If you had a risk we would be begging you to get tested and seek treatment but the fact is there was no risk .
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Re: Received oral immediately after two other people
« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2014, 06:31:41 AM »

I was worried about a possible seamen-to-blood transmission


The only way you're going to get infected with hiv from any seamen is to have unprotected anal intercourse with them - provided of course at least one of them happens to be hiv positive.

Any semen (on this site you are permitted to say cum) that may have been in this woman's mouth when your turn for a blowjob arrived posed no hiv threat to you. Getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection regardless of how many additional details you can add.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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