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Author Topic: Testing tomorrow/Woman  (Read 1041 times)

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Offline minmin

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Testing tomorrow/Woman
« on: March 17, 2014, 01:07:50 PM »
Hello there everyone, I'm M and I joined this site to ask questions, to get help, to get advice, to get educated about hiv.
I'm testing myself tomorrow, and I'm freaking out. I've been considerably calm these past couple of days but as the "big" day gets closer and closer all I can think about is not making it to the appointment. I have to be honest with you, I'm almost certain is gonna come out positive, it's that gut feeling you know? especially since you know what you've done in the past and that you exposed yourself several times, and although it's been years I still worry. Never had an hiv test by the way, obviously because I'm scared and because I know how irresponsible I was back in the day. I had several unprotected encounters with different friends,people I kind of knew but not really, of course that doesn't mean anything. Also I've never had a fever of cold sores or swollen lymph nodes and rashes, etc so that gives me a little hope but still,that again, doesn't mean anything. Some of these people are around, I have a few on facebook and other have kids now and are married,other I lost track of, one was killed and yeah, he's the one I'm most worried about because his lifestyle wasn't something to brag about. But anywa, I'm here now and I have to get tested, I know, and although I might seem calm believe me, I'm not. At the same time I feel alright, I just want to know there are alternatives if I end up testing positive, I want to live mylife normally and carry on with the good health I've had so far. I'm now married and my husband is a very supportive man, he even said that if I test positive and he does too we will fight the virus together, and even if he doesn't he will be there for me. That feels good, to have that suport. So the extra hands up I get from whoever reads this would be greatly appreciated. Wish me lluck and send me good vibes, I need them.
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Offline Joe K

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Re: Testing tomorrow/Woman
« Reply #1 on: March 17, 2014, 01:21:38 PM »
The only way to know your status is to test and hopefully your results will be negative.  While I understand your fears, berating yourself over activities that happened years ago, is somewhat self-defeating.  What is done, is done and once you have your results, you can decide on your next course of action.

Worrying and getting stressed out about the test, will not change the results, it will only make the wait for results that much harder.

I wish you the very best with your test.

Please let us know what happens.


Offline Jeff G

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Re: Testing tomorrow/Woman
« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2014, 01:29:52 PM »
I just wanted to echo what Joe said and remind you that since you only have 3 free post to save them to come back and update us on your results . Best of luck .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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