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Offline Asiangirltan27

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Please help!
« on: March 07, 2014, 03:33:17 AM »
Thanks to every member in this website so amazing and very helpful..

I am an asian girl I lived in Thailand.
About 2 month ago I had unprotected sex with an American male who I just met and I dont his HIV status. That was my first sexual intercorse. I was a virgin before. And I am stupid I did it without condom. And there was blood after sex. Although he didnt came in me. But there is pre cum.
I had very sore throat after 3 week exposure.
I had rash in my groin area and didnt itch and spread all over my body. I didnt have fever.
But the rashes looks like Hiv rash. didnt itch and redness..
I took Hiv test at 48 days in STD clinic
use 4th generation CMIA came back negative.
but the doctor told me to repeat next three months, because she is doubt with my rashes.

I very scare my hiv test will turn positive after 3 month :'(
I have no idea.
I tried to ask a man who sleep with me about his status but he was so mad at me. I dont know why.
I felt so stupid and regret so much :"(
What should I do?

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Re: Please help!
« Reply #1 on: March 07, 2014, 05:23:14 AM »

It's true that you need to confirm your negative status at the three month point. It has nothing to do with any symptoms you may or may not be experiencing, it's just standard hiv testing protocol.

The earliest one should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

If your symptoms had anything to do with hiv, your 48 day (nearly seven weeks) test would most likely have either been positive or at the very least indeterminate. The symptoms that some people experience are not due to the virus itself. They are due to the process the body goes through while producing antibodies.

I do not expect your result will change when you confirm at three months, but you DO need to confirm.

You also need to test for all the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs such as chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis. Syphilis shares a three month testing window with hiv for a conclusive negative result.

While you need to make sure any guy you're with in future is wearing a condom for anal or vaginal intercourse, please stop beating yourself up over this on-off incident. Men can put a lot of pressure on women to have sex without a condom. You have to be prepared and have your own condoms on hand, and insist on them being used.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Please help!
« Reply #2 on: March 07, 2014, 12:22:32 PM »
Hello Ann..

Thanks you so much for reply.
Yes. I will get test at 3 month point.
I am very very hoping the result will come back negative.
Ann.. Your statment make me feel comfort and calm.
Thanks you.
I like very much this website.
Ann.. Andy.. Jeff.. Rapidrod and the others so amazing person who give every people information..
I hope you guys always ok and healthy.

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Re: Please help!
« Reply #3 on: March 07, 2014, 03:47:05 PM »
Asian, I agree with Ann that with your negative result at 48 days it is most ikely you're going to test negative conclusively at 3 months.

Just learn from this experience. You can have all the anal sex you want. Just do it the safer way which always without exceptions having the insertive partner wearing a condom.

Good luck with your test result and keep us posted.
Andy Velez

Offline Asiangirltan27

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Re: Please help!
« Reply #4 on: March 08, 2014, 12:27:24 AM »
Hi.. Andy...... hello :D
Thanks.. yes. I think I should bring condom whereever I go. Unprotected sex is stupid thing I have done. The regret feeling ruin my mind and my life.
I will post my 3 month result here..
I hope it will be negative again.
Wish me luck.


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