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Author Topic: What are the chances of me being infected?  (Read 1024 times)

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Offline stefan

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What are the chances of me being infected?
« on: February 18, 2014, 02:07:32 PM »
Hello guys!
I am writing to you hoping that I will get a professional opinion about my problem.
I am a gay man and I recently started a relationship with a guy that I still don't know very well. He does seem like a nice and honest guy and he told me he is sure he doesn't have HIV because he regularly donates blood and goes through blood examinations. However, I am skeptic about it.
I didn't want to have any kind of sexual contact with him until we both get tested, but yesterday I agreed to give him a blow job. The problem is that I wear braces. I did try to do it gently and after I was done I didn't see any blood or wounds on his penis. He also told me he didn't feel anything. However, I am still afraid I could have scratched him and got in contact with his blood. Also, I was surprised that he didn't have any precum and he told me he never does, so I guess that even if some precum was involved, it wasn't too much. His penis was in my mouth on 3 occasions, but I think none of those 3 lasted more than a few seconds till one minute.
On the other hand, I didn't notice any cuts or wounds on or in my mouth.
I would like to know how much blood/precum is necessary to transmit HIV that way...
Also, I read different opinions - from those who say that transmitting the HIV virus is impossible through oral sex, to those who say that 8% of HIV positive people got the virus performing oral sex.
Please help me! I am terrified and I don't know how I will be able to wait 3 months to get secure test results...

Offline Joe K

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Re: What are the chances of me being infected?
« Reply #1 on: February 18, 2014, 02:28:00 PM »
Hey Stefan,

You did not have a risk by giving the guy a blow job.

The risk factors for HIV are ...

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth.
Very specific healthcare situations.

HIV is a very fragile virus that does not survive outside of the host, because changes occur in the virus that render it unable to infect.  The mouth is another barrier as it contains various proteins and enzymes that damage the HIV and render it unable to infect as well.

The differing opinions you read about oral transmission of HIV, are merely that: opinions.  Sometimes, people will be unclear, or lie, or forget to report other risky behaviour when claiming a given transmission route.  We base our assessments on the latest peer-reviewed medical science and giving a blow job, is not a risk for HIV infection.

If these are the only incidents that concern you, you DO NOT need to test.  If, however, you are overly anxious, you can wait 6 weeks past the last incident, to test and gather your negative result.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV.  Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!



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