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my story and testing questions....
« on: February 15, 2014, 12:04:29 PM »
long story short, I was dating a girl for 3 months and after a couple months, we started having unprotected sex... we had unprotected sex perhaps 3-4 times, a couple times in early December and the last one on NYE

then on jan 7th she decided to tell me that she has genital herpes.... this began a very stressful last month for me

after she told me that, I became very very stressed... then apprx 1.5 after NYE (and after our last unprotected encounter) I came down with a slight fever and very achy muscles and tired, my groin felt sore and weird and was getting weird sensations in my lower body.... I thought also my lymph nodes were swollen but I am not sure.... no other symptoms at that time, felt bad for about 4-5 as the symptoms subsided

went to see my doctor and told him about it... he felt my nodes and didn't say anything and told me not to stress out... he asked me if I wanted to get blood work and std testing and I said that was good idea.... at that point he said do u want to test for hiv and I freaked out.... I got tested on feb 5th which would have been about 5 weeks since the last unprotected encounter... I am waiting for the result

since seeing the doctor I have been in crisis lockdown mode... not eating, not sleeping and shaking with stress... I have no symptoms now except my skin often burns on different parts of my body which I have never felt before, I have lost weight from inactivity and not eating and my skin feels warm sometimes like I have a fever but I don't (checking it several times a day)

what are the chances I have hiv?

I have asked my now ex girlfriend and she claims she was std tested and has nothing (except herpes) and I am crazy but I don't believe her for many reasons... she claims she was tested in October just before we started dating

my next question is, assuming our last encounter was on dec 31, is feb 5 enough time for the virus to show in bloodwork?

assuming the test come back negative (and to be honest I have already convinced myself I have hiv) when should I wait to get a confirmation result?

thanks for your help

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Re: my story and testing questions....
« Reply #1 on: February 15, 2014, 12:11:19 PM »

You need to wise up and stop having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse until you're in a situation where you've tested negative TOGETHER.

The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative is highly unlikely to change, but must be confirmed at the three month point.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. Nothing about your symptoms is specific to hiv and could be caused by many other things. And stop taking your temperature all the time. That's just silly and isn't going to tell you a single thing about your hiv status. ONLY testing will.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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