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Offline rav

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am i infected?
« on: February 14, 2014, 08:35:42 AM »
Hi friends, thanks for all the help you are providing here for all the needy people...
I have the same doubt as so many asked about, I had insertive oral sex with middle age women on last sunday. she sucked my dick without condom and I ejaculated in mouth I was at bottom and she was on top, though I am fully convinced now that there hasn't been a single documented case of hiv transmission to an insertive partner during this act. but still my anxiety make me nervous cause I have very tight foreskin on my dick so I cant pull it back even half way so my glans always covered with it will this situation matters if her saliva or blood get inside the skin which will cause any damage?(I am sure I haven't pinched my dick repeatedly in her mouth) & I have cleaned it quickly with water after my session which is not more than 4-5 min & what about viral load? I have done protected sex 3-4 times before & there was no any drama with best of my knowledge only this time am worried over no condom use. I haven't done anything else other than getting bj.
I also worried because I had plan to circumcise my dick at start of next month should I wait for post 6 week fully negative test results to go for it. or as its NO RISK situation I should follow the planned date for circumcise. I really don't want to discus any symptoms here like loose stool (2-3 times a day) or feeling weakness  from last 3-4 days, its may be because very hot conditions here and humidity is high & I had glass of wine every night to get sleep well over my anxiety. that's it. waiting for your reply.

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« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2014, 08:40:10 AM »
You did not have a risk getting a blow job and can safely stop worrying over this no risk incident .

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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Offline rav

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« Reply #2 on: March 17, 2014, 05:39:56 AM »
Thanks Jeff & all friends,
I have almost forgot all the drama happened 5 weeks prior but from yesterday having cold, fever & pain in ear, I immediately went to doctors and got antibiotics, cold and flu tablets with some pain killers for pain in ear. Well this might be because weather change conditions and am always have flu in every start of winter.  But the thing really bother me the news 2 days back in which CDC documented 1st case of women to women HIV transmission in US, that news really make me scared whether Virus is getting more vulnerable for the sexual methods we all considering almost safe? like oral sex, using sex toys etc. am really scared particularly after that news & my yesterdays flu symptoms. Please your word  on this will helpful to me to regain some confidence.
Thank you.   

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« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2014, 07:44:57 AM »

If you read those news releases about those women, you'll find they're full of maybes and might haves. It is far from conclusive that transmission occurred in the way that is being claimed.

It has nothing to do with your situation anyway. Women don't get blowjobs and saliva isn't infectious.

The bottom line is this: If you cannot bring yourself to believe that you had NO RISK when you got a blowjob, go test and collect your negative result. As a sexually active adult you should be having regular, complete sexual health check ups anyway.

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