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Offline HelloThere

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Anal Receptive Dipping
« on: December 15, 2013, 11:52:14 PM »
I am a 38 year old male and have been sexually active with other males since my late teens. Thus far, I am HIV negative and tend to take great responsibility for wearing condoms and having good judgement.

I have gone on 4 dates now with "Frank". We got naked for the first time on the third date and it was only kissing and mutual masturbation.  During that time, Frank voluntarily told me that he is HIV negative and asked my status as well.  I told him that I am also negative.

After our 4th date, which was 2 evenings ago, he came back to my place and spent the night. Having discussed our sexual preferences on the 3rd date, I was aware that we were both tops.  Personally, I hadn't bottomed in a couple of years. Even in my monogamous relationships I was always the top. This didn't change the attraction we both felt. So nevertheless, he really wanted to try fucking me.  I agreed to step outside of my comfort zone and at least try. 

He brought condoms with him and put one on his (very large) penis.  We used a water-based lube and I tried sitting on his dick.  Tried for about 10 minutes, it did go in - condom on - but I was very tight and found his large penis to be extremely painful.  So we stopped.  We watched a movie and cuddled instead. 

Things heated up a bit later and we engaged in some foreplay and frottage.  He was rubbing his big head all over my hole, teasing it and playing around as we made out.  He looked down at his dick, spat on it, then dipped (forced) it inside of my butt.  My ass was still sore from trying anal sex earlier, not to mention the immediate and unexpected thrust-dip he just made inside me.  His condom-less penis was in my ass for about 8-10 seconds.  The pain combined with the realization that his raw dick was inside me, made me immediately take it out. 

He was not even remotely close to cumming and I checked his penis for precum afterwards, which there was none. 

I just can't get this off my mind - that I let a guy dip me without a condom and that I was the bottom, which is an inherently riskier situation than being the top.  My ass was still sore from earlier when he tried to fuck me with a condom, so my fear is that I possibly had small tears in my butt from then as well.

Based on the facts of my situation, how risky was this behavior?  does this episode of being on the anally-receptive side of dipping warrant me to go on PEP?  It's currently 48 hours since we were together.

My uncle was also gay and, sadly passed away from an AIDS-related illness.  I'm super paranoid of this happening to me.

Thanks so much for all replies,

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Re: Anal Receptive Dipping
« Reply #1 on: December 16, 2013, 05:20:21 AM »

This situation is very much on the lower end of the risk scale (given that the insertion was extremely brief) and I would not recommend PEP - however, that is your call. You would mainly be at increased risk in this situation if he has very recently been infected himself, as a recently infected person will usually have a very high viral load.

You need to know that if you do go for PEP, it will extend your testing window period by four weeks.

While I don't think you need PEP, you would be wise to test (and test for all the other STIs as well). The earliest you should test is at six weeks (or six weeks post-PEP*). The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days.

*You should be given a base-line rapid hiv test before you are prescribed PEP, if you do decide to go that route. If you do decide to go for PEP, you need to start it no later than 72 hours after the incident. Sooner is better.

A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point (or three month post-PEP - 16 weeks post risk), but is highly unlikely to change.

You already seem to know this, but FYI:

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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