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Offline Sully123

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Pure Anxiety..
« on: December 03, 2013, 12:18:27 PM »
Im 21, male, straight.

When i was 16 (5 years ago) i had sex for the first time with a girl a knew and had a friendship with. I knew her ex boyfriend who she was with for 2 years previously. They were both happy and showed no signs whatsoever.

Anyway, recently i found how she was abused as a child. Then it was national aids day and i was reading some information online about symptoms, and started to back track. Now im worried sick. I still know the girl and she is happy and in another long term relationship with a decent job etc, nothing to show she is suffering from HIV.

I dont have a clue, where my anixety as come from, this is the only sexual encounter ive had which was unprotected. With the girl and somehow ive manged to convince myself that she might have HIV.

Also, couple of days back. The girls ex-boyfriends new girlfriend was rushed to hospital as she fell very ill, she was in hospital for a few days and they said she had diabetes hes been with her since she was 18. Which got me even more panicked.

Can somebody give me a piece of mind here to put my mind at rest?

Thanks alot guys

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Re: Pure Anxiety..
« Reply #1 on: December 03, 2013, 12:24:09 PM »
The risk factors for sexually acquired HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal sex , if you engaged in unprotected sex you would have had a risk and can test now at any time .

You should not be frightened to test , the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor that you do not have HIV ... but testing is the responsible thing to do .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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Re: Pure Anxiety..
« Reply #2 on: December 04, 2013, 06:21:44 AM »

You need to realise that people living with hiv usually look just like anyone else, and are very often just as healthy as the next guy. There are rarely any obvious outward signs like you seem to expect there to be.

You also cannot know or guess at a person's hiv status going by what they tell you (unless they tell you they are hiv positive) or what you think you know about their life. Very often people don't accurately know their hiv status when they say they're negative and sometimes people will lie.

The best way to protect yourself from hiv infection is to use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions. You won't protect yourself by asking about status or by assuming a person couldn't be positive. If you make any assumptions about a person, assume they are potentially hiv positive and protect yourself with a condom.

Along with using condoms, you should also be having a full sexual health check up at least once a year, or more often if you're very active with more than one partner. The other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv and can be present with no obvious symptoms, so make sure you always test for everything, not just hiv.

As you have had unprotected intercourse you do need to test. An hiv test at (or later than) three months after your last incident of unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse will be conclusive.

Stop the speculation and go test.

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