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Author Topic: what are my chances of being infected???  (Read 1561 times)

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Offline puramarina

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what are my chances of being infected???
« on: November 11, 2013, 08:26:44 PM »
On september 28th i had sex with the guy who was my boyfriend at the time.
He tends to precum a lot…a lot a lot a lot… so when he penetrated the condom was already filled with a lot of precum. i started to feel a wetness outside of my vagina and i told him to stop. when he was pulling out of me the condom slipped and half of it stayed inside. He twisted the condom and pulled it out of me completely, but a lot of the precum had already spill outside my vagina. i got up quickly to clean myself with baby wipes. I was worried about getting pregnant, and getting hit or an std never crossed my mind. until now. 

He had unprotected sex with two girls before we got together.  One of the girls was his last gf and they had unprotected sex, because she was a virgin when they got together. Before she got with the second girl he was tested for hit & stds and he came out clean.

He never got tested after breaking up with the second girl, because she lost her virginity to him, and they were together for a long long time. 

two month before we got the incident ( condom slipping out) he had spent a whole month in jail. From our talks i got the impression that he had shared his razor with other inmates and he even got his head shaved.

Before i started dating him i was tested for std's and hit and i was cleaned.

He broke up in really bad terms and we are not talking. he does not want to get tested neither.

What are the chances that he had gotten infected of hit while he was in jail???
and what are the chances that i could be infected?????????? what are my chances of other stds?

about the 2 weeks ago i had excessive dehydration. and about 5 days ago my vagina started to itch. There is not odor, no pain ( now its irritated because i have been scratching, it bother me when i pee), no discharge. My vagina was completely shaved when the incident happened and now it's growing back. Typically, my vagina itches when my pubic hair grows back but idk if my itchiness is due to that.
Please help!!!

PS: He is circumcized

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Re: what are my chances of being infected???
« Reply #1 on: November 11, 2013, 09:00:05 PM »
I have carefully read your question, and nothing in your situation seems to indicate any HIV risk at all. Your partner's pre-cum was contained within the condom, and though it slipped as he withdrew (this is common) the head of his penis remained covered. In adition, pre-cum cannot remain infectious outside the body for any length of time, so any "spillage" from the condom would not contain active HIV. This is especially important because the front part of the condom, containing the bulk of semen and sperm, was efective in protecting you.

As I read this, you have had absolutely no HIV risk.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline puramarina

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Re: what are my chances of being infected???
« Reply #2 on: November 15, 2013, 07:27:38 PM »
Thanks for your response!!
i hope i get more responses. i just got tested last monday and i'm still waiting for my results. Please pray for me


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