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Author Topic: My Dear Grandmother...  (Read 4713 times)

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Offline Basquo

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My Dear Grandmother...
« on: June 06, 2006, 08:55:11 PM »
I was just thinking this past weekend how my wonderful grandmother will be 91 in September.  I reminded myself that anything could happen at anytime.  My dad sent me an email last Thursday that she seemed to be fading, not quite herself.  She had decided to stop driving, and confessed that she had little interest in eating and less in cooking.

My grandmother fell this morning and while I don't know the exact circumstances or injury yet, in the ER they started the usual radiology and discovered metestatic cancer.  I don't know much more than that, but I've started packing and will drive out to west Texas tomorrow morning.  My dad can't make it until Thursday, my sis says, and I'm worried about my aunt, the only other family out there.  She is a nurse and also single, like me, and she will need some relief in care.  Mimi is now in a room, not an ICU, so I know she's stable, but she needs family and so I go to her.  I don't know what I'll find, but I am prepared for anything from changing a diaper to a pedicure.  I did the same thing for her husband, my grandfather, 10 years ago.

She has always been in my life, and I am preparing for the end of hers.  I guess the reason I'm posting this is because I am for once focusing on mortality other than my own. Thanks for reading.


Offline AlanBama

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #1 on: June 06, 2006, 09:00:36 PM »
Dear Creighton,

I'll be keeping you and your Mimi in my prayers.   Best of luck to you.


"Remember my sentimental friend that a heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others." - The Wizard of Oz

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #2 on: June 06, 2006, 09:02:13 PM »
Creighton, sorry to hear about what's going on with your grandmother. Wishing you well however things go.

Andy Velez

Offline Teresa

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #3 on: June 06, 2006, 09:02:50 PM »
You and your Grandmother will be in my prayers.
I lost my granny 2 yrs ago at the age of 94. I miss her everyday!

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Offline cjc

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #4 on: June 06, 2006, 09:10:45 PM »
Sorry to hear about your Grandmother, it's really good that you will be with her.  Cristy

Offline Sdgirl

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #5 on: June 06, 2006, 09:14:15 PM »
My thoughts are with you.................grandparents are so special.  Their wisdom and knowledge knows no bounds.  I was always astounded at the things my grandmother would say to me.  Just when I thought she wouldn't understand or was to old to relate, she would come up with something that would blow my mind!

She has lived a good life...91 years is a long time to be on this earth....she has more living to do, whether it be long or short, make the best of the time you have with her.


"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.  Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.  It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.  We ask ourselves.."Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?  Actually, who are you not to be?"

Offline Oscar

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #6 on: June 06, 2006, 11:14:00 PM »
Dear Creighton,

I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. I will be thinking of her, you and your family during this difficult time.



Offline DancerBoy

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #7 on: June 06, 2006, 11:37:40 PM »
C Baby-
    I love you so much and I will keep you and your grandmother in my thoughts and prayers...
Boys are Stupid

Offline Terry

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #8 on: June 07, 2006, 08:48:11 PM »
Creighton, You surely are something special. Your Grandmother is a lucky woman to have you for a Grandson. My heart goes out to you.


Offline Nadine

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #9 on: June 07, 2006, 08:52:36 PM »

You and your Grandmother are in my thoughts.

Stay strong

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #10 on: June 07, 2006, 09:18:29 PM »

My Nana died on April 2nd this year. One month short of her 89th birthday. I was very fond of the old dear. My thoughts are with you and your grandmother.


Offline JeffInNYC

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #11 on: June 07, 2006, 09:36:59 PM »
Sorry Creighton.

Im going through something similar with my mother.  Im hoping she has at least another 10 years.  But no matter the age of the person you love, you are just never ever prepared to lose them.  Life is so uncertain and its so painful to watch someone we love and care about go through something like this.

I'll be keeping good thoughts for your grandmother, you and your family.

Take care.

Offline JohnOso

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #12 on: June 08, 2006, 04:43:22 AM »
Will be keeping you and your family in my thoughts Creighton.  I'm glad you are going to be at her side, and I'm sure your aunt will appreciate the support.

Take care and drive safely,

PS  Flash that winning smile and give the nurses chocolate -- they'll be putty in your hands after that.

Offline Markmt

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #13 on: June 08, 2006, 08:50:10 AM »
Hi Creighton, Im sorry to read of your Grandma's injuries. Good that you will close when she needs you to be there. Its always hard to face these circumstances when it involoves people you care for. Will be thinking of you,

take care,

"Live to love and love to live."

Leo Buscaglia

Offline aztecan

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Re: My Dear Grandmother...
« Reply #14 on: June 08, 2006, 08:58:59 AM »

I will keep you and your grandmother in my thoughts.


"May your life preach more loudly than your lips."
~ William Ellery Channing (Unitarian Minister)


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