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Author Topic: am i at risk ? please help !  (Read 1976 times)

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Offline johnsmith

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am i at risk ? please help !
« on: October 09, 2013, 08:14:33 AM »
ok ill try to make this short and detailed
i met a guy online about a month ago and we decided to have casual sex we used condoms every time but something has beem bothering mefor a while the second and last time we had sex he started rolling down the condom and realized it was backwards then put it on the correct way meaning the side that went inside me came incontact with his penis now im not sure if he had precum but im thinking worse case senario now the first time he went in it was right after he flipped the condom then we stpped and the second time he pulled out a new condom and he flipped it again but i gave him oral w the condom on then we had sex and finished each of the time se had sex was about 5 to 10 minutes now before i met up with him i was doing some solo anal play so my anus was bleeding thats what is killing me not its a month later and im freaking out and i have a sore throat and idk what to do i need to know if i was at risk i know symptoms of lack of arent a sure fire way to know if you have hiv and im still going to get tested but i need to know if someone could please help !!!

p.s. i did ask him about his status and he said two weeks before we met he got his results in as negative

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Re: am i at risk ? please help !
« Reply #1 on: October 09, 2013, 08:22:28 AM »
You didn't have a risk even if he was HIV positive , HIV is fragile and damaged instantly when exposed to oxygen rendering it unable to infect . Its not a good idea to flip condoms around but only because you run the risk of damaging it . Had the condom failed you have known it because that's the way they a designed . You didn't have a risk in the situation you describe .

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!   
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Re: am i at risk ? please help !
« Reply #2 on: October 09, 2013, 11:36:38 AM »
From what I saw the condom was not broken but could it have been damaged at all maybe a small hole ?

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Re: am i at risk ? please help !
« Reply #3 on: October 09, 2013, 12:10:05 PM »

Condoms are designed to fail catastrophically, that is, when they fail there is no doubt.  You are splitting hairs here, as you did not have a risk.


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Re: am i at risk ? please help !
« Reply #4 on: October 09, 2013, 11:52:26 PM »
thanks guys appreciate it i must just be getting the flu it is flu season loll  :)


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