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Author Topic: Magnetic Couples & conceiving  (Read 5036 times)

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Offline kntrymama

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Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« on: October 02, 2013, 10:29:32 AM »
I've lingered around this site on and off for the last few months, but decided I might as well stop lingering and finally post as for once..I do have a question.

Are there any other magnetic couples here - male pos female neg - that have conceived?

I know there are a few options, after my boyfriend had initially said he couldn't have kids, then finding out this was why, I read more about IUI/IVF with sperm washing, quickly shut down his idea that it was impossible through the research I did.

More recently, I've found some information about it being possible to conceive naturally, so long as his VL is undetectable and it is recommended I go on PrEP and we only have unprotected sex when I would be fertile.  Yesterday I went to my doctor for some issues of my own and talk of future kids came up and what my plans were, when I brought up it definitely being something I want but that my significant other as pos, she also brought this up and said it has become an option many more couples are going with.

Obviously when the time comes, we will look into it more and talk to both his doctor and mine to discuss if it is a good option for us, but I really would like to hear from someone else who has actually gone this route if possible.
« Last Edit: October 02, 2013, 10:32:24 AM by kntrymama »

Offline onepart

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #1 on: October 25, 2013, 10:10:23 AM »
hi kntrymama,
we, a magnetic couple, naturally conceived this way, PrEP and some tests included beforehand. Everything went fine as predicted from the doctors! this is definately possible but there are some restrictions to "the rules" as you probably know. if you are interested you can also PM me. best, onepart

Offline 2tcells

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #2 on: November 09, 2013, 12:56:00 PM »
Im poz my gf is not I was infected for at least a few years before I had my 2 kids each 2 years apart. But I didnt know I was poz so we didnt do anything to stop transmission. Now that I know I am interested in how to have one more without giving her hiv. How much dose the extra stuff involved cost?
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Offline jpiper

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #3 on: November 15, 2013, 07:29:56 PM »
@onepart, would you mind answering questions i have as well? my husband and i have decided to have children (he is + and i am -) and i'd like to know what to expect, i guess. we have seen 4 different doctors this month and scheduled for 2 more!

Offline onepart

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #4 on: November 16, 2013, 01:43:26 PM »
hi jpiper!
i guess some things depend on where you are based. 6 different doctors sound a lot! what kind of doctors did you see? for us it went fairly easy. aside from my bf's doctor we had seen a fertility doctor who was specialized in dealing with sperm washing, and for some reason we thought we might need that. (in the end we didnt) but what we did there was checking the viral load in sperm as well as the motility of the sperm (how fast they move i think). also making sure no other std's were involved and/or checking if i would have trouble to get pregnant. my bf was on meds for about 9 months then and in the blood it was always undetectable. we had the viral load checked, which was fine / undetectable in the sperm as well, which was reassuring. this didnt apply to the motility of the sperm though, basically they've told us that chances are bad to get pregnant the natural way, problably caused by the meds. but since this whole thing felt kinda safe, i got a prescription of pre exposure prophylaxis / truvada anyway. they told us to come back after some months of trying without "results". so we gave it a try by me monitoring the ovulation with these tests you can buy, and then i took some truvada before, during and after ovulation days to be sure/feel safe. well, and i got pregnant with twins, the first time we tried..crazy. then i got some tests later into the pregnancy which all came back negative. so looking back this was really easy. but i was scared and stressed before i have to say. i didnt know how much and often we would have to go see these doctors etc. but as soon as i was pregnant, i think everything felt just normal (apart from getting 2 babies:) the memories on the worries vanished quickly.
best, onepart

Offline jpiper

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #5 on: November 22, 2013, 11:19:02 AM »
@onepart, wow twins! that's wonderful! we have other issues as well and since i live to worry, we've been to every DR on the planet in the past month. might as well take advantage of my insurance, right?
we've been to his and my psychiatrist, my ob/gyn twice (i had a birth control implant removed and i had a lengthy consult with her.), my daughter's (my bio, his adopted) neurologist, his ID Dr. and yesterday we went to my new ID Dr and nurse. and next month we are going to see a genetic councilor.   
They all seem to be very positive and are happy that we are doing so much preventative care. his last test results were that his viral load is undetectable (and has been for 3 years) and his tcell count is 875ish. all the drs said that was ideal and for me to stay up his ass about taking his meds.
anyhow, they did recommend that i take truvada while trying to conceive and while pregnant and nursing. they told me to consider taking it indefinitely if i really wanted to be as safe as possible just in case a condom breaks or something. and then they took about a gallon of blood out of me and told me they'll know if they are comfortable giving it to me after the results.
i'm tracking my ovulation and fertility as well and am doing to baby making on these days=)

do the pills make you sick? I'm happy and comfortable with the Drs we have chosen but i'm worried that the Drs and nurses at the hospital that'll be in the middle of the moment will be aholes and make us uncomfortable. I'm assuming you had a c section because of the twins but would they have recommended it anyway? i guess i'm asking how much different should i expect it to be than my first child.
i'm sure i sound really naive and ignorant. i'm a little embarrassed.

Offline onepart

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #6 on: December 02, 2013, 01:44:32 PM »
hi jpiper, i dont recall any side effects of taking the truvada. i just took them for like 5 days or something, maybe 8 but not more. it sounds much to take them through pregnancy and nursing when you dont have to? on the other hand you probably have your reasons and if this is not a problem for a baby...
i have never told anyone but my gyn back then about the circumstances of the start of the pregnancy to be honest. i took a first hiv test into the pregnancy with her. but after the negative results came in (later confirmed again) i didnt see the point to let the docs at the hospital in on it.
i did have a c-section but only because of the twins. you'll stay negative anyway with all these precautions, so at the time you'd give birth it just doesnt play a role anymore i'd say. saying that - if there arent any other complications, why should it be different than any other pregnancy? other than that many people say each pregnancy is different anyway.

Offline amd609

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #7 on: April 22, 2014, 08:35:40 PM »
I just wanted to say thank you to the ladies that brought up this subject. While I am not currently planning on having children in the near future, when I found out that my boyfriend had HIV that was one of my biggest concerns. I see myself spending the rest of my life with this man and I do one day want to have children. I really appreciate that you all shared your story, it is possible to conceive naturally, and that I am not crazy for wanting to be uber careful through the process. Thanks!

Offline Jmarksto

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #8 on: April 22, 2014, 10:46:23 PM »
Welcome to the forums amd, as you have found this is a great place for information, support, humor, and at times a little contention -- like any other community I suppose. 

Best, JM
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Offline emex27

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Re: Magnetic Couples & conceiving
« Reply #9 on: June 16, 2014, 04:32:40 PM »

My wife is pregnant and is due to give birth early December this year. Conception was natural on the day of ovulation. All other times, I used a condom and will continue to do so. Preps are not available where I am and I don't even want my wife to be bothered with taking tabs.

I consulted with 3 different experts (P.hd) and all 3 said I can go ahead and have a baby the old natural way having been on meds and UD for 6 years. My wife and I agreed and planned it well. The 2 Ovulation test kids did not work. Nevertheless, her period cycle is 28 days and we planned conception on the 14th day. I abstained for 4 days prior to conception to ensure a good potend load ;D

My wife has done tests and she is fine!

But note that this is a forum where we share our experiences and offer advice. It is your choice to decide on how you want to conceive your baby.

Best wishes

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