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Author Topic: Risk Assessment After Multiple Partners  (Read 1149 times)

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Offline stellmouse

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Risk Assessment After Multiple Partners
« on: September 12, 2013, 07:05:42 PM »
Hi. After getting out of an LTR (I'm a gay male), I have had a couple of new sexual partners lately, and am concerned about my HIV risk given the activities. If you could provide an assessment, I'd appreciate it. As far as I know, all of these men were HIV-negative.

Guy #1: We engaged in a little bit of dry humping and mutual masturbation, and then I performed unprotected oral sex on him for a few minutes. He didn't cum in my mouth, and eventually he just jerked me off and then masturbated himself until he came on my stomach. This same scenario has happened two more times since the first. He's uncircumcised, if that makes any difference.

Guy #2: A lot of dry humping and mutual masturbation. Some frottage, and then mutual unprotected oral sex, without ejaculation. He then proceeded to finger me for quite awhile, sometimes roughly, while he masturbated. When this happened, I was lying on my back and he was in between my legs. At one point, the fingering became more uncomfortable so I looked up to make sure nothing had changed, and he appeared to still be masturbating and fingering me with the other hand. Eventually he ejaculated on my stomach. This situation worries me the most. Could he have given me HIV if he used the same hand he was masturbating with to finger me (if precum were on it or something)? Also, I am worried perhaps when the fingering got uncomfortable, he had inserted his penis in me (since I wasn't looking). But I have never bottomed, and he wasn't using any lube, so I feel like I would have felt a difference between a finger (or two) and a penis (and I don't remember him having removed his fingers). But do you think it's possible? How much of a risk would it have been? It only lasted a few seconds.

Guy #3: I performed unprotected oral, with some minimal rimming. He eventually came on my face/lips/eyes.

Are any of these risky situations for HIV? My oral health is excellent, as far as I know. All these situations happened within a two week span. Is it possible that I could have caught a STD from, say, Guy #1 or #2 that would make giving unprotected oral to guy #3 super risky? (I read a response from Ann recently indicating that syphilis sores could do this). What if they were HIV positive and didn't know it and had high viral loads? I got a full STD panel done when I got out of my relationship and everything came back negative, so if anything turns up it will be because of these encounters. Do you think I should be tested for HIV over any of these? I've become obsessed with going over the details of these encounters and just don't know.

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Re: Risk Assessment After Multiple Partners
« Reply #1 on: September 12, 2013, 07:15:04 PM »
Hi Mouse ... you didnt have a risk . The risk factors for HIV are as follows ...

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

I did read each of your concerns and none of them are a risk for HIV , please keep in mind that anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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