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Offline Anon4708

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Possibility of exposure
« on: September 09, 2013, 11:52:11 AM »
My wife & I went to a swingers club a few weeks ago & ended up in bed with 3 other couples.
She performed oral sex on 1 woman & recieved oral sex from 2 women.
There was also a glass dildo I used on my wife that had previously been used by 2 of the women.
It had not been cleaned, but sat out for 10 or so minutes before I used it on her.
This was the only sexual contact other than some kissing (I pretty much just watched).

3 days after this, she got a sore throat. 2 weeks later she began to feel fatigued & also had body aches for a day with a recurring headache. Her nose is stopped up & she also lost her voice.
She was okay for a couple of days, but now the sore throat & body aches are back with some sweating in the mornings getting ready for work.
We have had unprotected sex several times & I have a sore throat, minor body aches, headache, stuffy nose.

My brain is telling me we have a cold of some sort that just happened to come up after our swinging experience. I haven't said anything to her, but I am freaking myself out a little.

What were her chances of exposure in this situation?
« Last Edit: September 09, 2013, 12:06:19 PM by Anon4708 »

Offline Jeff G

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Re: Possibility of exposure
« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2013, 12:33:36 PM »
Cunnilingus is not a risk for HIV , so she didn't have a risk . HIV is fragile and cannot survive outside the human body , slight changes in temperature and PH levels damage HIV instantly rendering it unable to infect . This is why the sex toy wasn't a risk .

 There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

For future reference ,  the transmission modes for HIV are as follows ....

Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.
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Offline Anon4708

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Re: Possibility of exposure
« Reply #2 on: September 09, 2013, 01:08:44 PM »
Was the dildo a "no risk" situation as well?

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Re: Possibility of exposure
« Reply #3 on: September 09, 2013, 01:13:02 PM »
HIV is a fragile virus. It is not transmitted through inanimate objects such as dishes, glasses, doorknobs, toilet seats and glass dildos.

Your wife should check with her doctor about any ongoing symptoms. They have nothing to do with HIV. 
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Re: Possibility of exposure
« Reply #4 on: September 09, 2013, 01:30:12 PM »
Thanks guys.......really eased my mind.


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