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Author Topic: Pre-Cum from a poz top risk chances?  (Read 2069 times)

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Offline Flonnzilla

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Pre-Cum from a poz top risk chances?
« on: September 05, 2013, 04:47:04 AM »
This was really the only place I could think to ask, anyway I made a mistake with my boyfriend and I am wondering what the risks are.

I am Poz, undetectable and am the top in the relationship.  He is the bottom, and is neg.  We have always used a condom... 

Though tonight was a little bit of a different story.  Basically our encounters had been getting slightly riskier and riskier.

I tend to pre-cum and he likes to tease without the condom on but no pentration occurs though it is in that specific part. 

Anyway tonight was a different story there was enough pre-cum to act as lube and I ended up penetrating him for a few seconds and then pulling out, so of course both of us are extremely worried, and I feel extremely guilty about it all, but would like if someone could let me know what chances of infection for him would be

(sorry probably more detailed than it needed to be but I'm horrible with words so I tried the best I could)

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Re: Pre-Cum from a poz top risk chances?
« Reply #1 on: September 05, 2013, 05:38:36 AM »
Hi Flonnzilla, welcome to the forums.

I've moved your post from the Am I Infected forum to the Living forum, which is the more appropriate place for your post as you are poz.

I really wouldn't worry too much about this one-off brief penetration, provided you've been undetectable for at least six months and you do not have any other concurrent STIs.

Being undetectable means you're MUCH less likely to pass your virus on. No, it's not impossible, but it is more unlikely.

If you guys are having a difficult time with condoms, have you considered having your parter take PrEP? (Obviously if you can afford it and/or insurance will cover it.) It would mean him taking Truvada every day, and he would be covered against infection after about a week.

So, some further information would be helpful, such as how long you've been UD and whether or not you're sure you don't have another active STI.

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Offline Flonnzilla

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Re: Pre-Cum from a poz top risk chances?
« Reply #2 on: September 05, 2013, 05:54:48 AM »
Thanks for the info, (and thanks for moving the thread I wasn't fully sure where it belonged so that seemed the best I could find).

No I don't have any other STI and Ive been undetecable since February of this year. I know I feel extremely guilty about the risk I put him at, and hes not talking to me at the moment so I'm just trying to get as much information as I can on my own.

And no I had never even heard about PrEP until just not so we hadn't though of it, though I am not sure how likely his insurance would be to cover it.


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