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Offline havingatoughtime

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Conflicting Information & Testing Options
« on: September 04, 2013, 01:56:03 PM »
Hi, I've really been stressed out and I'm hoping someone can help. About 4 weeks ago I hooked up with a guy I met online. He mentioned that he was HIV neg and disease free. We mostly made out for like an hour, and I performed oral on him 3 times for about a minute each. I didn't trust him enough to let him cum in my mouth, but a substantial amount of precum got in my mouth. It got on my tounge, my cheeks and then I swallowed it. This was my first m2m encounter so I've been having a lot of anxiety in regards to me contracting HIV.

I read some similar posts on here and you all seem to say "you were never at risk" to the posters. I emailed a doctor who is an HIV expert, and he said "yes I can get HIV from oral, its less risky but still possible"...I called my local clinic and they say there is only a theoretical risk, and testing isn't necessary. I'm struggling because I don't know who to believe. Moderators in a forum, a HIV expert, or a nurse at a clinic? The conflicting information is making me stressed :(

Also, at 1 month out. What are my testing options? I know there is a 3 month window, but I can't wait that long. I need my "piece of mind" back.

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Re: Conflicting Information & Testing Options
« Reply #1 on: September 04, 2013, 01:59:10 PM »
Move along. HIV is not transmitted by oral sex. You don't have a window period you never had an exposure.

Offline Jeff G

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Re: Conflicting Information & Testing Options
« Reply #2 on: September 04, 2013, 02:13:16 PM »
There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

You don't need to test over giving a BJ . The theoretical risk for performing oral sex an a male only comes into play if he had a huge viral load and you had appalling oral health .

Its still exceedingly rare for HIV to be transmitted in that manner because your saliva contains property's that damage HIV rendering it unable to infect . If you had a risk we would be falling all over ourselves insisting you test or seek treatment because that's what we do and it would be counter productive to mislead you  .

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Re: Conflicting Information & Testing Options
« Reply #3 on: September 04, 2013, 02:18:14 PM »
Thanks for the responses. You all made my day.


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