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Author Topic: Very rough unprotected oral with ejaculation in mouth - should I worry?  (Read 3106 times)

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Offline LostLA1981

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Hello All,

I've been reading your posts on the forum, thank you for the good work that you're doing.  I understand that HIV risk for giving oral is very low - almost non-existent.  I guess I just want some reassurance for my situation. 

I performed unprotected oral sex on a well-endowed man of unknown status.  The session lasted almost 2 hours, and he pretty much tried to force me to deepthroat him throughout the session.  I've tasted his precum several times, and eventually he ejaculated in my mouth and I swallowed.  I am now concerned that because of his significant penis size and the rough "deepthroat" session we had, could his penis caused damages to my the mucous lining and therefore leaving me more vulnerable to HIV infection, if he is indeed infected?  My mouth is otherwise in decent health (no open sore/wound, generally don't bleed unless brushing tooth/flossing, etc). 

Due to unknown reason, my anus were unfortunately scarred/damaged and I suffer light incontinence and have therefore abstained from anal sex for the last 5 years.  Oral sex is pretty much my only sexual outlet and I generally don't use condom, understanding that the risk is very low for HIV, which is my primary concern.  However I've never given oral sex to someone who's as "endowed" as the man i met today, and I'm concerned if this encounter is riskier than than others due to the trauma to mucous and tissues inside mouth and throat. 

Thanks again for all your help.

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Re: Very rough unprotected oral with ejaculation in mouth - should I worry?
« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2013, 05:33:00 PM »
You didn't have a risk . Oral isn't a risk and you enjoy good oral health also . 

There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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Re: Very rough unprotected oral with ejaculation in mouth - should I worry?
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2013, 05:33:50 PM »
Well, if you absolutely feel the need to test over this incident, then do so for your peace of mind.

Thing is, you are asking us to quantify the chances of an incident that has yet to be fully documented yet. And after almost fifteen years' worth of post-HAART/ART therapy-driven studies of serodiscordant couples, I daresay that rough fellatio with a well-endowed person falls fully within the scope of ethical study. High viral loads V meth-mouth, however, does not. And it is only the latter sort of event that we even POSTULATE as a theoretical risk.

Personally, I wouldn't worry about HIV over that situation- but if you felt uncomfortable being used like that for two hours, remember next time that you have the power to pull back and slow down/stop the activity if it is no longer pleasurable. Canine teeth.

Of course, you ought to be getting regularly tested for others STDs, as they CAN be transmitted through fellatio.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Re: Very rough unprotected oral with ejaculation in mouth - should I worry?
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2013, 09:20:26 PM »
Thank you both Jeff and jkinatl2!  I figured as much that I wasn't really at risk, but still can't help feeling a little anxious about the situation.  I do in fact get comprehensive STD check up twice a year and so far nothing's been detected.  Hopefully I didn't catch any other STD from this encounter, but at least my greatest concern for HIV is not one of them. 

Thanks again.   


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