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1st time blow job scared
« on: August 26, 2013, 07:42:52 PM »

I recently had an encounter with a 24 yr old blk male.   He claims he is hiv neg and ddf.

We met up and we did a 69.  He accidentally came in my mouth in which I immediately spat out.   He apologized and I was nervous
because I had brushed my teeth maybe an hour before hand.   I asked him status again he said hiv neg.   I don't know him and he and I have no contact to one another.

I started to worry considering this is my first experience ever.  I went to the emergency room and was giving a std/sti shot and told that hiv through oral sex is hard.  Still paranoid I called my primary doctor who put me on Atripla for 14 days.  I am very nervous.   Please advise.
« Last Edit: August 26, 2013, 07:51:28 PM by prepstar212 »

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Re: 1st time blow job scared
« Reply #1 on: August 26, 2013, 08:17:43 PM »
Hi Prep ... you didn't have a risk for HIV from giving a blowjob and your doctor overreacted by giving you Atripla for PEP  because you do not need it .

If you did need PEP you would also need to take it for a month in order for it to be effective , not 14 days .

These are the risk factors for HIV...
Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!
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Re: 1st time blow job scared
« Reply #2 on: August 27, 2013, 02:23:03 PM »
Hope you are right still very nervous and waiting for hiv viral load results.  You have been doing this for ages so I am certain your advice is right.  I am just nervous and suffering from some anxiety.

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Re: 1st time blow job scared
« Reply #3 on: August 27, 2013, 02:30:11 PM »
Star, getting a blowjob is new to you, but it is also one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic there has never been a confirmed case of transmission of HIV in that manner to a guy. It's safe to say you are not going to make history by becoming the first.

It's very unfortunate that you went to someone afterwards who didn't know enough about HIV to tell you the real deal and that you were not at risk.

There is no need for testing or for further concern on your part. Jeff has given you the real deal on what is risky sexually.

Get on with your life and let this concern go is my recommendation.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #4 on: August 27, 2013, 03:14:38 PM »
Just got a call regarding my hiv viral test -  it came back negative.  I believe I am still going to complete the 14 day medication just for my sanity.

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« Reply #5 on: August 27, 2013, 06:44:36 PM »
Just got a call regarding my hiv viral test -  it came back negative.  I believe I am still going to complete the 14 day medication just for my sanity.

That is entirely up to you. Might I suggest that in the future you leave off the DDF question and simply assume your partner is positive until you guys are in a monogamous relationship and get tested together at the appropriate times?

Sero-sorting is a major cause of HIV infection. It encourages people to lie, or to avoid testing altogether. And even if a person believes he is negative, he could well be within the window period (when his viral load can be in the MILLIONS) and still test negative on a rapid test. Sero-sorting works when both parties are positive. It is a fool's errand when you are trying to remain negative.

While oral sex does not present a risk for HIV (with the possible exception of oral hygiene that is horrific - Google "meth mouth") a good rule of thumb is this: If you would NOT consent to a sexual act with someone you know to be HIV positive, then don't do it until you are in a securely monogamous relationship and have been tested together at the appropriate times. Because to consent to sexual activity with a person of unknown status IS to consent to the possibility of acquiring an STD.

The DDF/UB2 culture is a failure. You cannot gauge a person's HIV status by his word. HE might not know. And you are trusting a stranger with your health. PLEASE take care of yourself. Ultimately, your health and your life is your responsibility.

I have absolutely every faith you will come through this OK (PEP was way overkill, and makes me doubt your doctor's HIV education) but in the future please abandon the DDF discussion, and simply assume you are having sex with an HIV positive person until proven otherwise. It's the only way you will absolutely stay healthy.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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