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Offline Susobis

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Oral sex risk
« on: August 22, 2013, 03:17:08 PM »
Well, I've read a lot about oral sex risk in this forum, I read that there is virtually no risk. But hey, I need advise individually in my case:

 I practiced oral sex on two men briefly. At that time I did not notice precum. Neither ejaculated.

I have not had any other relationship outside of my matrimony.
 Since then I am a bit worried  because although my mouth was healthy and blow jobs were for a short time and (I think) there was no liquid in my mouth, my mind does not stop thinking. Perhaps remorse, guilt, and think that may have infected me.

I know, the risk is very very low, but the mind is free

I need you advice

Thank you very much, you have a great work

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Re: Oral sex risk
« Reply #1 on: August 22, 2013, 03:33:11 PM »
My advice? Well, what you described doesn't sound AT ALL like even a remote HIV risk.

You were at risk for oral gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis, and herpes from the oral encounters however. These diseases can often show few symptoms, and can be passd to your wife during sex.

Until such time as you are in a secure, mutually monogamous relationship, you need to use a condom for penetrative vaginal and anal sex AND get a full STD panel done every six months or so (or three months past your last sexual encounter) in order to ensure your sexual health and that of your partners.

Your wife would also benefit from these routine STD panels, as the diseases I rattled off could have a MUCH more disasterous impact on her body - with the exception of syphilis, of course. That is fatal for most people who don't treat it.

This is not, however, an HIV situation.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Offline Susobis

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Re: Oral sex risk
« Reply #2 on: September 06, 2013, 05:54:39 AM »
Thanks Jk, but I need for my peace of mind somes answers o replies.

As I related my encounter was very brief. In fact one man did'nt get excited at all and went down and the other neither get excited completely. I'm pretty sure that there was not even precum.

Then, it could say that if there was not precum o cum, there was not HIV?
Yeah, I know that although there was any liquid, the risk is very low or theoretical only.

But if there was not liquid, the risk dissapears, no?

I should test for HIV?


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Re: Oral sex risk
« Reply #3 on: September 06, 2013, 08:27:19 AM »
Sus, our focus here is strictly on HIV. Nothing you have reported of your activities would have put you at risk for HIV. Your saliva has over a dozen elements and proteins which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV.

As JK has pointed out other STDs are easier to acquire so if you continue to be sexually active outside of your marriage, getting a full panel of STDs done regularly would be a good idea. That means at least annually and every six months would be better.

But as far as HIV at this time, there is no cause for concern nor any need for testing.
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Offline Susobis

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Re: Oral sex risk
« Reply #4 on: October 15, 2013, 07:09:42 AM »
Well, in the eighth week I tested HIV negative. This should be conclusive because of the low risk I had. But the words of  JF and Andy about other STD scare me terribly. All blood test values are within normal limits, even a low level of leukocytes (stress).

 Iím not sexually active (only this encounter) and I have no intention of repeating the experience.
I have sex with my wife vaginally always protected (never anally) but unprotected oral (BJ). Then my question is if I have caught some STD orally, can I infect her with my penis?  Or only orallly from me?

Thanks you

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Re: Oral sex risk
« Reply #5 on: October 15, 2013, 07:16:38 AM »

You are indeed hiv negative.

If you have an STI in your mouth, you can only transmit that STI orally. In the case of oral/vaginal sex, the oral STIs most commonly transmitted would be herpes and syphilis.

STIs like gonorrhea and chlamydia can be transmitted from the vaginal area to the mouth, but rarely from the mouth to the vagina. They can, however, be easily transmitted from the mouth to the penis as well as the other way around.

If you're worried about other STIs, go get checked out and be sure to have your throat swabbed.

This situation is not an hiv concern. You don't have hiv.

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