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Author Topic: A virgin with HIV? :(  (Read 7946 times)

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Offline secondopinion17

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A virgin with HIV? :(
« on: August 13, 2013, 10:30:27 PM »
Hello dear admins, moderators, members and all.. I am on the younger side of the spectrum and don't have a huge  amount if knowledge to put my anxiety at ease.

 You see I started seeing a older gentlemen who's claimed he was clean of all STDs but that is ambiguous to me as far as my health is concerned. On two separate occasion we engage in genital rubbing. I get extremely wet and assume what with his vigorous rubbing that any precum he may have emitted might have gotten into my vaginal opening as he would only slightly push at my vaginal opening without going in as I am a virgin and didn't want to lose my virginity just yet. I also don't like to perform oral sex on anyone who I am not certain of their status but he was so gentle and un-persuasive with it that I felt inclined to do it. I only put my mouth on him for about 30 seconds to a minute on each occasion. I did not brush my teeth prior but I did eat cookies which may or may not have given me macroscopic cuts or abrasions. He did not cum in my mouth nor do Ithink he had precum but I could never know for sure whether he had precum or not. He also did not cum in or around my vagina on either occasion. But as I said before he could have leaked precum around my vaginal opening. I don't know. He did not come at all either occasions now that I think of it. But I am still worried that maybe (should he be infected) he could have gotten me infected by his vigorous prodding at the entrance of my vagina (he tried pressuring me into letting him enter but I said no both times) and also at the brief times I licked and mouthed his penis but spit immediately when saliva would build in my mouth. Then we would kiss and I would drink Gatorade after.

I'm really worried that he could have infected me with precum had he secreted any by rubbing it into my vulva and vaginal entrance and or it infected my mouth.

I'm thinking of getting PEP and tested but that'll be really expensive and want you all's views on the matter..  :-[    I'm still a virgin and it would really suck if I got HIV before I even got a chance to have sex.

PLUS: should I be worried that he gave me oral sex for a while until it hurt a bit?

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Re: A virgin with HIV? :(
« Reply #1 on: August 13, 2013, 10:40:15 PM »
You didn't have a risk for HIV in any of the things you are concerned over .
The risk for HIV is as follows ....
Sharing IV drug needles immediately after use.
Unprotected anal and vaginal sex.
Mother to child during or shortly after birth
Very specific healthcare situations.

Rubbing , Kissing and oral sex isn't a risk and you did not expose yourself to HIV in the situations you describe . You do not need to test for HIV over this incident however ,  anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.
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Re: A virgin with HIV? :(
« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2013, 07:37:22 AM »
Are you sure? I don't really want to go get PEP or the test unless I know for sure that it is necessary. Other than these occasions I am not sexually active. I just want to be sure completely.

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Re: A virgin with HIV? :(
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2013, 08:07:01 AM »

You do NOT need PEP as you have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

As for testing, any sexually active adult should have a FULL sexual health check up at least once a year.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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