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Author Topic: Should I get PEP?  (Read 1008 times)

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Offline theonyc1987

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Should I get PEP?
« on: August 09, 2013, 06:52:42 AM »
Last night, the guy I'm dating and I were fooling around and frankly we were both a little tipsy. Stupidly, I allowed him to insert himself without a condom. After two or three gentle thrusts, I came to my senses and had him pull out. He did not ejaculate inside.

Afterwards, I asked him about his status and he asked me about mine. He said he was negative and that unprotected sex wasn't something he did -- as did I. It's worth noting that last time we had sex, he placed a condom on.

I'm just concerned because although I trust him I want to make sure that the risk itself with this activity is low for my mind's sake. Either way, I know it's stupid and have no intentions of repeating it.

Would this scenario warrant possibly going on PEP?

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Should I get PEP?
« Reply #1 on: August 09, 2013, 09:41:07 AM »
Yes, you did have a risk. The brevity of the insertions and his not having ejaculated are significant points in your favor against transmission having occured.

You always need to keep in mind that someone's assurance of being negative is never the basis on which to go ahead with unprotected intercourse or to assume there is/was no risk. Even well meaning guys don't necessarily know their accurate status.

From what you have described I would call this a relatively low level risk situation. On the other hand HIV is forever when it happens. So you have to weigh the inconvenience and possible discomforts of doing PEP for 28 days against the risk of living with HIV. And if you're going to do PEP then the very sooner the better.

Whether you do it or not you need to get tested. You can do that initially at 6 weeks after the incident. Assuming your result is negative, then re-test at 3 months for a conclusive, reliable result.

Sex is great and natural but should be avoided when drinking. As you have found out, excessive drinking impairs your ability to make good decisions about safer sex.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. Keep us posted.
Andy Velez


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