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Will I be HIV positive?
« on: July 25, 2013, 06:38:44 AM »
Hi all,
Yesterday I was really horny and desperate to have sex. Met this guy who was also looking for sex and we decided to hook up. We had unprotected oral sex for a long time which means he sucked my penis which is uncut and I sucked his. And we involved in a protected anal sex. He first fucked me with a condom on his dick and then he tried putting my dick in his ass before coming. Was not having a proper hard on but he tried to insert mine without any condom. It didn't actually go inside and even if it had, my penis lost hardness and came out if the hole. This would have happened only for a minute or two.
He then can over and so did I on my body. Later on when I went to reply to his profile to thank him for coming, I read that he is hiv positive. I m very afraid since last night now. It's not that I m saying its his mistake, I m just cursing myself for having overlooked the fact that he is hiv positive. I have been cursing myself for this. I m planning to get a test done today. Here are my questions-
1.what are the chances of me getting an hiv positive?
2. What are the necessary steps, I should be taking in order to detect negative or prevent positive detection?
Something has already happened and I m repenting over my foolishness. Your advice and suggestion will be appreciated and valued.  Thanks for taking time to answer my questions and helping me.

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Re: Will I be HIV positive?
« Reply #1 on: July 25, 2013, 08:16:03 AM »

You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection.

Oral sex, either way, is not a risk for hiv infection.

The only possible caveat is if you have terrible oral health (google images "meth mouth") and he had a sky-high viral load. The VL is normally only sky-high in the primary stage of hiv infection and as this guy knows he's hiv positive, then he's not in primary infection. In fact, he's probably on meds and that lowers his ability to infect others by a huge margin.

Protected intercourse is just that - protected against hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. Not all the positive partners were on meds with an undetectable viral load either.

When he tried to put your flaccid penis into his anus, it wasn't a risk. What you engaged in is called frottage (the sexual rubbing of body parts together, without penetration) and frottage is NOT a risk for hiv infection. You could not have penetrated his anus without a hard-on.

Again, you have NOT had a risk for hiv infection. You do NOT need to test over this specific incident.

Having protected intercourse is NOT foolishness, it's what you're supposed to do each and every time you have anal or vaginal intercourse.

If you feel the need to repent over anything, repent over the fact that you pay any attention to what people say about their hiv status in their profiles on online "dating" websites. The fact that this guy was open about being poz means that he's most likely on meds and being on meds goes a long way to preventing onward transmission.

It's the people who claim to be hiv negative in their online profiles that you need to worry about. Many people only ASSUME they're hiv negative - and if YOU don't get tested regularly, that includes YOU. And unfortunately, some people will lie about their hiv status.

You need to assume ANYONE you hook up with is hiv positive and protect yourself accordingly by using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER ORAL, FROTTAGE OR PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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