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Offline softballdude2012

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Question regarding transmission
« on: July 22, 2013, 06:29:17 PM »
Hi Everyone,

It has been awhile since I have posted in here but I do have a question and I need some advice from anyone and everyone.

I have been diagnosed for over a year now and my VL is now undetectable and my CD4 is 694.

I recently started dating someone who is HIV negative, I told him right up front that I was positive and he said that he didn't care.

We have had a few sexual encounters.  He likes to swallow/eat cum.  I have not let him.  He wants to know that if I were to shoot on my chest can he lick it off me and what the chances would be of him getting the virus. 

I simply do not know the answer to this question.  I personally think he would still be able to possibly get it but am not a 100% sure.  I am not sure if this is the right forum or not so I understand if this is removed. 

Anyone please feel free to let me know their thoughts, I personally think I would be devastated if I gave it to him.

Please advise.

"the past is just that the past, the future isn't here, today is a gift, that is why it's called the present"

June/July 2013 CD4 694 VL-undectable
September 2012 CD4 752 VL 11,669
started Atripla 09/13/2012

Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Question regarding transmission
« Reply #1 on: July 22, 2013, 07:13:06 PM »
If you are in a mutually monogamous relationship, have an UD VL and have no other STDs, then whatever you do is already basically safer sex.

Eating cum is not considered especially risky under any but the most obvious circumstances (raging VL combined with meth-mouth) and with your virus under control (congrats) you present negligible danger to him even if you topped him without a condom, let alone oral sex.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline softballdude2012

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Re: Question regarding transmission
« Reply #2 on: July 23, 2013, 06:15:42 PM »
Hi Jkinatl2,

Thank you for your response.  I appreciate the feedback and will take it into consideration.

I hope all is well.

"the past is just that the past, the future isn't here, today is a gift, that is why it's called the present"

June/July 2013 CD4 694 VL-undectable
September 2012 CD4 752 VL 11,669
started Atripla 09/13/2012


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