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condom slipped off during sex
« on: July 21, 2013, 09:17:37 PM »

A week ago I was having sex with a professor's daughter at my university..very stupid thing to do. She was on top of me and that was the second time i had sex this year. The first was in January. Anyways, I put the condom on, I got a large even though I think i am a size medium. She was on top of me and I came within 12 seconds. I felt pretty embarrassed by this and kept on going for another say 15 seconds until I told her I came and when she got off on top of me, I noticed that the condom was not on my penis. It was in her vagina. I dont know if the condom slipped off ontop of me during the sex after I came and kept on going (for about 20 or so more seconds) or if it slipped off right after she got off on top of me but I am pretty nervous about being exposed to HIV. I asked her if she had any STDs and she told me she wasn't aware of having any, which either way shouldnt be of concern to me because i need to get tested.

So I am freaked out. It's been a week since this happened and I am feeling pretty sick. I have a really bad cold and nasal congestion it sucks, I hope this has nothing to do with the incident. I know I have to wait another 5 weeks. I just feel so stupid for this happening. I really feel so bad ....sex is too stressful.  I never want to do this ever again....

So what are the chances that I got exposed to the HIV virus, assuming she had it, since its pretty possible and highly likely my penis head was exposed to her vaginal fluids during that encounter

thanks so much

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Re: condom slipped off during sex
« Reply #1 on: July 21, 2013, 09:34:48 PM »
Hi Needadvice , It sounds if you slid out of the condom and didn't actually have a condom break , if that's the case you didn't have a risk . In any event a brief insertion like you described is rarely a cause for concern and is considered low risk . I haven't had or heard of a condom break resulting in HIV transmission and would expect you to test negative when you test again .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs so you can test at 6 weeks past the incidence and again at 3 months to confirm the results .

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: condom slipped off during sex
« Reply #2 on: July 21, 2013, 09:39:05 PM »
Your risk was low, but not zero.

HIV is much more difficult to transmit from female to male than the other way around, but of course it's not impossible.

What you might want to do is to take an HIV test at six weeks past the incident. It's exceedingly rare for someone to seroconvert past that point. Then, at the three month mark, get an HIV test along with a full STD panel (syphilis shares the three month window with HIV). Of course, every sexually active adult who is not in a mutually monogamous relationship ought to do this twice a year at any rate.

For the record, I have been doing risk assessment on these forums for over a decade, and I have yet to encounter an insertive partner who tested positive over a condom break or lost condom.

But seriously, get a condom that fits!

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: condom slipped off during sex
« Reply #3 on: July 21, 2013, 09:42:38 PM »

Thank you so much for the advice. I will test in 5 weeks and let you all know my results. I will also go ahead and do a full STD panel

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Re: condom slipped off during sex
« Reply #4 on: July 22, 2013, 05:48:47 AM »

It sounds to me like the condom slipped off when you withdrew and if that's the case, then you didn't have a risk for hiv infection.

You should read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them correctly and with confidence. Part of using a condom correctly is holding onto the base as you withdraw, so it doesn't slip off and get left behind - and freak you out in the process.

I'm not suggesting that you don't get tested; any sexually active adult should be having a FULL sexual health check up at least once a year and more often if you're very active. Other STIs are MUCH more easily transmitted than hiv, so make sure you don't limit your testing to hiv.

While I absolutely do NOT expect you to test hiv positive over this incident, testing will put your mind at ease and allow you to accurately know your sexual health status.

Don't forget to click on those links in my signature line.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

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