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Offline Drunk_fool

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Concerned about hiv
« on: June 22, 2013, 11:19:03 PM »
Hey guys. I made a terrible mistake about a month ago. I went to cancun and in one of my night out i got extremely drunk and ended up at a strip club. A woman offered me sex and i, being completly drunk agreed to go with her to a room. She put a condom on my penis and started to give me oral. Once i was hard enough she introduced my penis inside of her vagina but i was so drunk that quickly enough got soft again. She tried to get me hard again and at this point i took the condom off.

I tried to get hard again..maybe i could have rubbed my genitals against hers ( unprotected) and the when i couldnt get hard enough decided to go on and give her unprotected oral/rimming. I was too drunk to have vaginal sex..

My guilt is beyond imaginable. Every day i live in constant depression. It has been six weeks and i have been experiencing the following symptoms:

-stiffness in my neck; swollen lymph nodes in my neck region.
-a small rash on my left leg.. Looks like a mosquito bite.. Its dry and itchy.
- constipation
-muscles feel tired and sometimes hurt.

My question is, do you think i am at risk of hiv ?

Thanks for your time.

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Re: Concerned about hiv
« Reply #1 on: June 22, 2013, 11:48:45 PM »
 HI DF . Sexually you are at risk for HIV if you engage in unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse . The oral sex and rubbing / frottage isn't a risk .

None of the activity's you are concerned about put you at risk for HIV so you can relax and put your fears aside .

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME for this particular incident  anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!   
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Offline Drunk_fool

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Re: Concerned about hiv
« Reply #2 on: June 23, 2013, 10:16:17 PM »
Hi Jeff. Thanks for taking your time and replying. I felt more relaxed today after 6 weeks of hell and anxiety. Still all these symptoms i have make me second guess about my situation.. I have a dry cough (maybe cuz a/c at work) and this morning i woke up woth plenty of pimples around my neck.. I dont usually get pimples.. I am taking a test to see if i have any sti. For hiv, am i ok to test now? An how definitive would this test be? Do i need to keep having test after this weeks test?



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Re: Concerned about hiv
« Reply #3 on: June 23, 2013, 10:23:12 PM »
If you have had an exposure to HIV


The soonest that you can get a reliable result is six weeks after an exposure


but the "gold standard" for testing is still three months past an exposure


If you use a condom for penetrative anal and vaginal sex


you can avoid HIV.

I certainly hope that my subtext came through there.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline Drunk_fool

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Re: Concerned about hiv
« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2013, 06:12:55 PM »
Thank you guys. You have been very helpful. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I will have a test at  12 weeks to put all my doubts behind. I have never tested for stis before and im 29. This experience has definitely opened my eyes. I tested after the first week of the "exposure" to find out if I had any other stds.. I have also asked my doctor about the risks from the exposure and he said that the risk is very low.  I will keep you guys posted on my results!



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