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Offline worriedeu

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Risk Assessment
« on: April 23, 2013, 07:33:34 AM »
The picture: I am a male that have engaged in some activities with a female (stripper)
1. French Kiss?
2. Mutual masturbation? (almost sure that was no direct contact - by that i mean frottage). But if yes will it change anything?
3. The biggest problem. Unprotected oral sex (perform on me for about 2 minutes)? (i have read a lot about this issue and sincerelly i am going crazy about this point).

I have been to my doctor and he said there was no problem as beiing the insertive partner and no need to test, but to avoid in the future unprotected oral sex. For me that is a contratidatory answer  :(. If there was no problem, why to avoid???

On other side many sites claim that unprotected oral sex may transmit HIV (although i dont understand many times if they are refering to all kinds of oral sex). But only claim some episodes for the receptive partner.

Could you clarify the following:
4. Should i be worried about HIV as a insertive partner?
5. I have read from time to time that someone claim getting HIV from oral sex. Those claims are also made from insertives partners? How really is the danger?
6. Is there any situation that could have put me in danger? (i did not notice any cuts in my penis or blood and was done in a soft way, but i am uncircumsised and did not ejaculate).
7. I am married (shame on me for this episode :( - i have learn my lesson). Even with Zero Risk should i get tested for this episode? Should i avoid any contact with my wife (i have done that for one month and dont know what else to say to her)?
7. If by any chance i have been infected i know that some times infected people get sympthoms. Is that possible to have those symptoms after 1 month? I am starting to feel very tired.

I am sorry for this long topic, but i feel i am getting crazy for this episode.

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Re: Risk Assessment
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2013, 01:52:09 PM »
Hello! Thanks for writing. I hope yu take the opportunity to read our LESSONS section on HIV transmission, so that you can more thoroughly acquaint yourself with the way HIV is (and most importantly, is NOT) transmitted.

Basically, your secual risks for HIV are limited to unprotected anal and vaginal sex. Nothing else.

I will address your questions directly:

1) French kissing is NO risk. Saliva is not infectious - moreover, it contains over a dozen identified elements that render HIV inert.

2) Mutual masturbation, regardless of whose fluids end up where, is NO RISK for HIV. HIV is a very delicate virus and cannot remain viable once exposed to the atmosphere.

3) Getting oral sex is NO RISK for HIV for the same reasons that french kissing is no risk. There has NEVER been a documented case where HIV has been transmitted by ANY of the things you described.

Please wear a condom for penetrative anal and vaginal sex and you will avoid HIV. It really is that simple!

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline worriedeu

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Re: Risk Assessment
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2013, 06:19:56 AM »
Thank You  :) for the prompt answer

I had read the HIV lessons and they are not so clear about oral sex (although as from my specific case as an insertive partner they seem to be more optimist). Although not documented are there any cases (or is it frequent) people claiming HIV from receiving a blowjob?

1. So regarding HIV (sexual speaking) my only concern should be always having protected vaginal sex. That should prevent the transmission. Is that correct?
2. Any other kind of sex (kissing, masturbation, oral) is considered safe sex in respect to HIV, and for that no test required?

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Re: Risk Assessment
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2013, 08:23:22 AM »

1. Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!!!

2. While any sexually active adult should be tested for hiv and all the other, MUCH more easily transmitted STIs at least once a year (twice is better if you're very active or have multiple partners), you do not need an hiv test specifically over kissing, masturbation or getting a blowjob. Those activities do not carry a risk for hiv - although getting a blowjob IS a risk for some of the other STIs.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY OVER KISSING, MASTURBATION OR GETTING A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Risk Assessment
« Reply #4 on: April 24, 2013, 03:17:55 PM »
Fully understood.
[Internet searches on this topic: Oral Sex - have drove me crazy for the last month]

Thank You Ann and Thank You Jkinatl2

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