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Offline Calidood

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Gay receptive anal sex and broken condom
« on: March 04, 2013, 10:04:38 PM »
Hello all

Thank you for reading my post, it is very well appreciated as I am very distressed about an incident hat occurred four months ago.

I am a homosexual 24 year old guy living in California.

On October 15 2012 or roughy about four months ago I met up with a man I met online.  He was a 36 year old guy who originally came from Britain. On the second date we became sexual and I participated as the receptive partner.  I've had anal sex before but it's not something I am too used to.  We did use a condom and lube but I am guessing not enough of it because the condom ended up breaking.

 When we changed positions and I got on top of him, he began inserting his penis in me but when the head was in, the condom snapped.  He immediately removed his penis from inside me.  He was uncircumcised and I could see his foreskins poking trough a whole in the receptacle. I'm guessing he was in me les than ten seconds.  We did not have another condom so we stopped all sexual contact.

I immediately inquired about his sexual history and he said he was clear of any disease as he had tested negative for HIV and other diseases about six months ago. 

So I didn't worry about PEP as I considered my risk to be negligible.  The next day when I went home before taking a shower I noticed blood on my underwear.  This of cours means that there was tears to my anus.  I again questioned him but he assured me he was clear.

That was the last time I saw him as I think he got offended at my insistence.  About a month later I finally asked him again to go get tested and he said he would go and let me know so I could stop worrying and bothering him.  That day he nev got back to me.  About three days later he finally answer my call and told me he didn't have a chance as something happened in his family.  He seemed distressed and upset.  So I began to think that he did go get tested and his result was positive except he was scared to tell me.

I am really upset and stressed because I had never in my life had sex withouth protection and I would routinely get tested and everything always came negative.  And the one time that the condom broke, it happens with a partner that is very difficult and not cooperative.   I know I can now go get tested but it is extremely difficult as I am in school right now and I don't know how I would deal with this.  It would probably throw me in depression and I would flunk my semester.  But as it is I already am having difficulties concentrating and having a normal life. 

I guess my questions are:

Has anyone ever seen someone in my case or similar become HIV positive ?

What are my chances of becoming HIV positive?

Is pre ejaculate as dangerous as enaculate? 

Thank you all for your time. 

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Re: Gay receptive anal sex and broken condom
« Reply #1 on: March 04, 2013, 10:33:46 PM »
Hi Calidood . I read your concerns carefully and it would seem that there would be only a minimal risk if any at all with a condom break as you described it .

Its exceedingly hard to assign percentages and numbers to each individual risk any one person may have incurred in the situation you described , so its best to steer clear of such conversations .

I read what you said about being reluctant to test and it causing you anxiety and depression but since you have been worrying over this for 4 months now and I would think that is depressing as well . I would expect you to test HIV negative but since its been 4 months , a full month past the window period where you could get a solid confirmatory test I would go test and then you can put this behind you for good .

Four months is a long time for you to be walking around worried and you have the means to end it by testing .       
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