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Author Topic: This Guilt is killing me!  (Read 1638 times)

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Offline MyLifeImLiving

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This Guilt is killing me!
« on: February 17, 2013, 05:35:50 PM »
I recently tested HIV positive and I unknowingly transferred it to a person I had been courting at the time. I told him before hand that I had been exposed to the virus from my past lover and that there was a chance that I could be infected and he proceeded to insisting on having unprotected ex with me. Once I found out I told them and someone ended up in a relationship with them. This is the most unhealthiest relationship in the world and it literally killing me because of all the unneeded stress involved with it. even though i expressed it open and honestly at the beginning of the relationship that I was exposed to it I still feel somewhat guilty for infecting them with the virus and it is the only reason why I am still in relationship i know I don't want to and shouldn't be in.
Is it wrong for me to want to move and move forward with my life if I'm not happy and this person is holding me back. why do i feel obligated to stay with this person for the rest of my life unhappily since i infected them.. how do i tell them after infecting them with hiv that its over and im moving on?

Offline surf18

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Re: This Guilt is killing me!
« Reply #1 on: February 17, 2013, 07:01:09 PM »
Dude your free to leave. You did your job,you told the guy you could be exposed to HIV. He was ok with raw sex. Its not like you tricked him and didnt tell him. Its like I dont blame whoever infected me. I made the choice to go raw and the infection is on me and no on else . Just like his infection is on him and not on you. So lose the guilt and move on and have a happy life.

Offline tednlou2

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Re: This Guilt is killing me!
« Reply #2 on: February 18, 2013, 01:18:18 AM »
Once I found out I told them and someone ended up in a relationship with them.

I am a little confused.  Did he get into a relationship with someone else, and infect that person?  You start out using the pronoun "him," but then you change to "them."  Are there two people you feel responsible for their infections?

Whatever the case, you told him you may very well be infected.  Besides that, everyone must assume their partner is positive.  If there is another person in the mix, you are no way responsible for that.  He chose to have unprotected sex.  I would see things a little differently, if you knew your status and lied about it.  It would still be up to him to protect himself.   


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