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Author Topic: I know this is probably far fetched.. but..  (Read 2170 times)

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I know this is probably far fetched.. but..
« on: February 07, 2013, 08:32:29 PM »
I was hooking up with another guy (who says he is HIV-neg). 

He fingered and rimmed me (both of which I realize are not risks)
I have a chronic anal fissure - so there is this small tear on the rim of my anus (bordering on the outside/inside of it), though at the time there was no blood or anything, my anal area was just coated in saliva.

I was lying on my back, he came on my inner thigh, and it ran down around my leg.. and i've got this anxiety now that some of his semen might have ran down around my anus and seeped into the anal fissure or anal canal, do i need to be worrying here? i've read many different takes on whether or not semen outside of the body poses much risk.

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Re: I know this is probably far fetched.. but..
« Reply #1 on: February 07, 2013, 08:39:35 PM »

No, you don't need to worry about this runny-cum incident.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse where the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect. For this reason, the cum on the outside of your body did not pose a risk, even if it did end up running down onto your fissure.

And you're correct, fingering and rimming aren't risks in any way.

Please be aware that you need to take the necessary steps to protect yourself regardless of what a guy tells you about his status. Some well-meaning people only think they're hiv negative, and unfortunately, some will lie.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST FOR HIV SPECIFICALLY FOLLOWING ANY OF THE NO RISK ACTIVITIES YOU DESCRIBE HERE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Performed Oral Sex on HIV+ Man (Undetectable Viral Load)
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2014, 10:18:44 PM »

I recently performed oral sex on a circumcised man who I just learned is HIV+. He has told me that he has an undetectable viral load (last check was around 10 copies).

He did not ejaculate in my mouth, though pre-seminal fluid was definitely in my mouth.

He also gave me a rim job.

He came on his own chest.

How likely is it that I contracted HIV from this encounter?

I did not brush my teeth, floss, or have any apparent cuts/abrasions in my mouth at the time.

Much thanks.

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Re: Performed Oral Sex on HIV+ Man (Undetectable Viral Load)
« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2014, 10:21:31 PM »
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Re: I know this is probably far fetched.. but..
« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2014, 10:29:42 PM »
HIV is transmitted sexually from unprotected anal and vaginal sex you did not have a risk for HIV giving a blow job .

Your saliva has proteins and enzymes that damage HIV and render it unable to infect .
There have been no fewer than three separate serodiscordant couples studies (where one person is HIV positive, the other negative.) These couples were tracked for three. five and ten years. The couples used condoms for penetrative vaginal and anal sex, but NO BARRIER at all for oral sex. Any kind of oral sex.

These studies yielded NO infections.

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Re: I know this is probably far fetched.. but..
« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2014, 10:45:23 PM »
Sorry about not merging the threads!

Just to follow up, and pardon the graphicness.. but does the fact that I deep throated him make any difference to your assessment?

Again, no semen, just pre-ejaculate would have come into contact with my mouth/throat.

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Re: I know this is probably far fetched.. but..
« Reply #6 on: March 20, 2014, 10:47:31 PM »
Sorry about not merging the threads!

Just to follow up, and pardon the graphicness.. but does the fact that I deep throated him make any difference to your assessment?

Again, no semen, just pre-ejaculate would have come into contact with my mouth/throat.
No, deep throating does not make a difference.


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