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Offline zeworried

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ruining my life
« on: February 01, 2013, 05:30:52 PM »

I have been dramatically nervous about bad decisions. I never had unprotected sex in my life for starters. But what really concerns me was this episode with a sex worker. Oral and vaginal protected with condom. But the condom was hers and I did not check it it was torn or split.
1) What if it was a very bad quality condom or unproperly stored/expired? the hazard that advents from this is breakage or another incident that allows infection to occur?
2) Could the condom break without me or she notice? I was pretty drunk but I recall seeing the condom intact almost at the end of the act.
3) Is it possible for me to get infected even though a condom was used? I have read that even though a condom was used and it did not break, infection could still occur.

Should I need a test? I thank you for all the help you kindly provide.

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« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2013, 08:42:04 PM »
I am going to answer your questions from 3 to 1.

3) You will not get HIV if you wear a condom correctly. The tip of the penis and your urethra are the vulnerable areas in a heterosexual male. As long as that's covered you are fine.

2) Condoms are designed to fail catastrophically. When they fail. it's pretty impossible not to notice. It looks like you are wearing a hula skirt around your penis.

1) Good quality, bad quality, expired or not, your condom was fine for it's intended purpose. Please understand, that the sex worker uses condoms to protect HERSELF, not you. She has a vested interest in her sexual health, after all. It's not just her livelihood, it's her life.

The incident as you described it is not at all an HIV concern.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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