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Offline andrewcanogapark

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I did sex with hiv + woman
« on: January 09, 2013, 02:18:50 PM »
Last night, I had sex with an hiv + woman. She told me, I didnt actually see a md report. I had on a condom and it began to come off, and during intercourse I kept pulling down the condom to cover my shaft all the way (as much as possible). The first time had sex for about 10 minutes.
During intercourse, the condom kept going up. I felt her Vagina alot while uncovered, and her fluids on my shaft and side of penis. I didnt stop because I liked her. I didnt wash the fluids off. after the first time (which was about ten minutes--
Than I decided to do it again. Second time I covered myself with a new condom. My fingers I used to put on the condom had her fluids on them and I touched the tip of my urethra and the inside of the condom with her fluids, and the side of my shaft had her fluids on it because I didnt wash off from the first time.

During intercourse (second time) the condom kept coming up, and all the way to where the condom only covered the tip of my penis. The tip was covered but I had sex with her the second time for about 15 minutes. My shaft, everypart of my penis was all the way exposed during the intercourse, could feel the fluids on the side of me, but the condom ALWAYS stayed covering the tip of me.

I have worries. Could the HIV have somehow infected me when I put on the second condom. Her fluids were on the side of my penis, and on my fingers. What about when I touched the condom with her fluids on my finger. I even touched my urethra when putting on the second condom and her fluids were on my fingers. I have heard HIV cant exist outside the body long, but what does that mean: seconds, minutes, or what about her fluids that were on my finger that may have touched my urethra or the fluids on the side of my shaft. Could her fluids have worked their way up during intercourse the second time. I am having a hard time with why I was so careless. I usually always take more precautions. Am I at risk. please explain/ in detail is fine too.

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Re: I did sex with hiv + woman
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2013, 07:52:30 PM »
Andrew, basically from what you described of the incident you were not at risk for HIV. As long as the head of your penis remained covered even when the condom was slipping up, you were still protected. It doesn't matter that you got her fluids on your hands or any of the other details. The risk for HIV is strictly through the head of your penis.

 Make sure you are using the right size condom for you. Perhaps the slippage was due to using one too large for you. By using a condom the other person being HIV+ doesn't matter because condoms provide very effective protection.

There is no need for testing nor for further concern.
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Re: I did sex with hiv + woman
« Reply #2 on: January 10, 2013, 02:31:05 AM »
I couldnt get the condom to roll down. I am thick. short maybe, but too thick condom couldnt roll down more than half way. regular size durex, trojan.
I get free condoms from the lesbian gay center hollywood. i probably need to find a bigger condom, not sure what to do.

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Re: I did sex with hiv + woman
« Reply #3 on: January 10, 2013, 09:30:26 AM »
Our moderator Ann has a link at the bottom of her posts that will show you everything you need to know about condoms. You obviously need a bigger one, for comfort's sake.

However, as long as the head of your penis is covered you are completely protected against HIV.
"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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