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Offline Drek26

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Worried well?
« on: January 02, 2013, 06:16:34 PM »
I pretty sure I know the answer im going to get, but everyone feels like there situation is different so here is mine:

ok Im a male, heterosexual (straight) 26 yrs old. I Just lost my virginity last summer, Oh I wish I could have it back! I regret losing it, I wanted to wait til marriage. Anyways Ive only had sex 5 times, with 4 different sex workers, I had sex twice with one women, btw they all worked at some type of "massage" and one time was at a strip club. I know people are not high-risk, behaviors are. in each of these acts of sex a condom was used for oral and vaginal intercourse. Now at first I wasnt worried at all about HIV or some other STD. Below is a timeline of my symptons.

Early December- I notice I have a itchy rash in between my lower left butt crack/cheek.

December 5th- I go to doctor that gives me wrong diagnosis of some sort of skin inflammation. In ignorance I go to the internet and search for symptoms of HIV and low and behold I see rash, and the anxiety sets in.

December 6th- I have protected oral and vaginal intercourse with a sex worker/massage therapist. During our sex, she stops and checks condom. I ask if it is broken, she says no. I know the condom didnt roll all the way down to the base of my penis is this a problem? my head was covered though. I didnt ejaculate til I removed condom, and masturbated myself. (to this date Ive only had sex 5 times, twice with the same women.)

December 12th- Im pretty much freaking out at this day, so I go get a HIV 1/2 oral swab rapid test. Im relieved it comes back NEGATIVE!.

December 13th- I develop a very pain perianal abscess. almost like a boil. its hard for to sit down, its very painful. its right in the area where I had my rash or skin inflammation. While I was getting checked out by the nurse, I notice I have a fever of 100.6.(Ive read that abscess can cause fever, so im assuming this was the cause of my fever) Now im really losing it! Doctor comes in looks at my painful perianal abscess, drains it a tad, and takes a culture of the pus that came from the abscess. He diagnosis it as a MRSA abscess/staph infection. He prescribes me clindamycin antibiotics, I finish every pill and abscess is gone.

December 14th- I wake up with extreme chest pains, prob due to extreme stress/anxiety. I go to doctor my heart is fine, he takes a xray, and they find a pulmonary nodule, a couple days later he calls back and says its benign (nothing to worry about)

here are some other symptons I experinced also

-growling stomach, as if I were hungry. when I ate it seemed to go away. I also learned that taking clindamycin just with water can cause this.

lump feeling in throat- maybe anxiety? I was so scared to get a sore throat, that I was constantly swallowing to make sure I didnt develop one. lump feeling went away when I had a good burp? GERD? possibly gas?

very mild sore throat- I would wake up with a sore throat, then a couple hrs later sore throat was gone. This went on for 2-3 days. took some sore throat peels, made it feel better. I also read that post nasal drip can cause this. I spit up a lot of clear mucus as well.

small swollen lymph node. Feels like a size of a pea, but sometimes smaller I only feel it on the right side of my neck, who knows maybe its just a muscle. when I look in the mirror, I cant see any swelling of the lymph node, but I can feel it. If I have a swollem lymph node, when it visible to see and obvious in my neck?

low grade fever- the 2 times ive been to the doc, I have a fever of 100.6-100.2 a nurse gave me motrin and fever dropped to 99.? in 20 mins or so. Do HIV fevers persist even with fever reducer medication? Ive also heard that abscess/skin inflammation could cause fever.

To sum things up I never felt deathly ill, or truly felt like I had the flu, I had the flu 5 yrs ago, and it was hell. I was sooo weak. And I know it wasnt HIV cause I was virgin then. Im just really worried about this super small lymph node in my neck i can feel, but I cant see it in the mirror, my neck seems to be fine, ive asked other people if my neck looked swollen and they said no.

Im really worried because a couple times I had sex the condom didnt roll all the down to the base of penis, it was maybe halfway down. the head was covered though.

Was I at risk for HIV? I last had protected sex December 6th, do I need to wait 3 months to get tested for conclusive results?

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Re: Worried well?
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2013, 06:38:52 PM »
Drek, man you need to take some deep and slow breaths in and out. I mean it. You are worrying needlessly about HIV.

The only confirmed risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. That's it. As long as condoms are used properly and consistently for those activities you will be well protected. Meaning the head of your penis needs to be covered. It doesn't matter if the condom doesn't cover your entire shaft.

If you have any persistent symptoms you should discuss them with your doctor. HIV is not your problem. Period.  No testing is necessary for HIV. Really.

Take another breath and get on with your life. Becoming sexually active can be exciting. It can also bring on a lot of anxiety as you are finding out. Take your time and only do things that make you feel good about yourself is my suggestion.   
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Offline Drek26

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Re: Worried well?
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2013, 09:17:37 PM »
Thanks andy,

I was just looking in the mirror and I realized I do see two small swollen lymph nodes on the back of my neck. these are called posterior cervical lymph nodes. from a distance you cant tell but if you get up close u can see two small lumps. I dont want to be one of those rare people who got HIV even when using a condom. what if she used a outdated condom?

oh yeah I forgot to mention I had night sweats too, one night my room was extremely hot, the next couple nights I just noticed lil damp spots on my sheets!

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« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2013, 04:07:40 AM »

If you feel unwell or are worried about your lymph glands, see a doctor. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with hiv as you have not been at risk for hiv infection. Don't bother going on and on about your symptoms - they're meaningless when it comes to hiv.

People don't get infected with hiv when using a condom. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Out-of-date condoms are only a problem when they break, and when they break it's obvious. You would have known if the ones you used broke.

This has everything to do with how you feel about having sex - and having sex with sex workers in particular. It has nothing to do with the science of hiv transmission. The only risk you took was the risk of having a bad case of the guilts, which you obviously have.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY FOR HIV OVER PROTECTED INTERCOURSE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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