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Offline raam

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Very confused and worried
« on: December 22, 2012, 10:05:44 PM »
Hi Andy/Ann,

I am very much worried for my situation. Well, I had a exposure and got tested negative after 9.5 weeks...Now I find lots of contradicting information over the internet..

I found few experts saying me no need to retest.Thats not going to chnage. Few told whatever it is you should confirm on 3 monts..btw it was a rapid test..

Can I move on now? Please ingore the OFFICIAL guidelines and answer me practically..

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #1 on: December 22, 2012, 10:16:30 PM »
Your exposure was?

Offline Ann

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #2 on: December 23, 2012, 07:58:30 AM »

1. We're not going to ignore the official guidelines. No way, no how.

2. What do you think put you at risk for hiv infection?

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #3 on: December 24, 2012, 01:36:56 AM »

I know you will not ignore official guidelines..but u can give me some practical assurance...

Ok I will put my story brief..

1. I did sex with CSW..of course the condom was on.
2. I fingered the girl and I had recent cut that started bleeding while fingering.I know u will say NO RISK..but believe me I am getting married next month and I really dont want to put my wife at risk..

That is the reason I took a rapid test after 9.5 weeks...

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #4 on: December 24, 2012, 04:28:03 AM »

One more thing, official guidelines say FINGERING IS RISK WHEN CUT IS INVOLVED..




I really dont want to want put anyone in risk because of me..
You can understand my situation..

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #5 on: December 24, 2012, 05:08:49 AM »
You never had an exposure.

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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #6 on: December 24, 2012, 12:09:52 PM »
No one in the history of the pandemic has ever gotten HIV through fingering. I'm not sure nor am I at all interested where you dig up your antiquated information but your attempt to "gotcha" the forum and those of us who utilize peer reviewed science as our template have not gone unnoticed. You want to believe you had a risk? Go for it. Wring your hands. Stop eating. Quit your job. But you won't get to do your ALL CAPS hystrionjc melodrama on these forums.

Grow up and move on. Your post has been reported to the moderators. Also, happy holidays.
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Re: Very confused and worried
« Reply #7 on: December 24, 2012, 12:28:42 PM »
First of all you need to stop writing all in caps. Doing that is considered rude on the net because it's like shouting. It doesn't get any greater attention to a concern so stop it.

I'm going to say once again  that nothing you are reporting of your activities has put you at risk for HIV. You need to stop searching the net because all that will happen is that you will continue to find misinformation to feed your worst fears. And all to no good purpose.

You have no cause for concern about HIV nor is there any need for testing.

Lastly I am going to warn you that if you come back again about this same non-risk incident with more what ifs and fears, you are going to find yourself getting a Time Out for at least 28 days from the site. HIV is not your problem. Period.

Consider yourself warned. Now get on with your life.
Andy Velez


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