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Offline RobertoG

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Risk Question
« on: December 17, 2012, 09:02:47 AM »

I was wondering if you could help me out with a quick question regarding infection with the HIV virus.

I am a married man and have been monogamous before and during my whole marriage, and still am. So I have not done too much research into HIV, and am thus not very well informed. I think I need to change that, although I still plan to remain monogamous.

At my friend's bachelor party at a strip club, I did receive some lapdances from a lady. I remained fully clothed during the dances, and she was fully nude. There was no sexual contact of any kind, but what has me concerned is the fact that I had a fresh scrape on my knuckle. About a quarter of a cm wide. I injured it on the way to the club, and didn't think it was that bad. The next morning though, I saw that a scab had formed on it, so it may have been open while I was getting the lap dances.

What's going through my head is whether or not I could have been infected by any vaginal secretions from the lady that was dancing for me. The only way I could see that happening is if she got some on her hands (she definitely wasn't fingering herself during the dance, but she did touch herself in her vaginal area a few times). She touched my hands a number of times as well, and so would have come into contact where my cut was. I'll be honest, I didn't notice any wetness, but it's still at the back of my head, as I wasn't really looking for wetness either.

Would testing be warranted, based on the activity I have just described? I apologize if it's trivial, because I am aware that it likely is. I guess it's a big thing to me based on the lifestyle I lead.


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Re: Risk Question
« Reply #1 on: December 17, 2012, 09:27:17 AM »
Roberto, relax. You are worrying needlessly. HIV is a fragile virus and is not transmited in the manner you are concerned about.

Sexually the ONLY confirmed risks for transmitting HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Nothing else.

You have no cause for concern over this recent incident. On with your life...
Andy Velez

Offline RobertoG

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Re: Risk Question
« Reply #2 on: December 17, 2012, 10:49:03 AM »
Thank you very, very much for your swift reply Andy. I thought I probably wouldn't be at risk based on what I read this morning on this forum. But it really helps to hear about my personal situation directly. I will put this behind me and get on with my life. Thank you very much again!

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Re: Risk Question
« Reply #3 on: January 11, 2013, 01:43:48 PM »
Hi Andy,

Thanks once again for your comment. It truly helped me and I didn't think about this incident for 3 weeks, and thought I had put it behind me. I still want to put it behind me, and am working on it. But was wondering if you could help me, hopefully one last time.  :)

I do believe that I wasn't at any risk based on the incident above. I asked other experts as well at the same time I asked you, and they all indicated the same...no risk. I believe them, and you, of course.

But the mind is a strange thing sometimes. I made a big mistake by trying to reinforce the fact that I was not at risk by using my lack of symptoms of ARS as further proof. And of course, exactly 3 weeks after my incident, I came down with a low grade fever for 2 days (about 100.2F at max for a couple of hours, and then around 99.5F for the rest of the 2 days, with temperature fluctuating a bit throughout). No other symptoms except a couple of loose stools, and feeling a bit tired on day 1. Would that be similar to typical ARS?

I actually feel foolish asking this question, because through my reading, I already know that the symptoms are not really indicative of anything. I know not everyone gets them. And I know they are similar to symptoms caused by infections by numerous types of virus. And like I said, deep inside I know that I wasn't at risk either. But still, I wanted to ask you the question above.

If I've broken any rules or violated etiquette, I apologize in advance.  


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Re: Risk Question
« Reply #4 on: January 11, 2013, 03:39:31 PM »

In case you hadn't noticed, it's cold and flu season.

You haven't experienced ARS because you haven't had a risk.

And by the way, MANY people never experience a single symptom of ARS, yet have been infected. Neither symptoms nor the lack of symptoms will ever tell you a single thing about your hiv status. ONLY testing will.

If you cannot bring yourself to believe us that you had no risk, go test and collect your negative result. Simple.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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