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Author Topic: Unprotected Oral Sex and 6 weeks post PN symptoms, Please help me understand...  (Read 3185 times)

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Offline L00p

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Hi All,

47 Days ago (6 weeks) I sadly caved in and had sex with a Sex Worker in Switzerland. It was a moment fueled by alcohol and emotional issues at home. Naturally the guilt has been ripping me apart over the past weeks, I'm an emotional wreck. The occasion itself was one that consisted of protected vaginal sex, and unprotected Oral on both parts (me to her and visa versa) there was also a very short instance where she used her finger to stimulate my anus.
My concern now is that around 2.5 weeks after the contact I begun experiencing tingling and burning sensations in both my arms, hands, and fingers. I've had bad pain in both knees which comes and goes but the tingling in my hands and fingers is pretty much daily. The only other symptoms I've had has been an infalmmed throat (slight ulcers at the back of the tounge) and some minor irritation under both arms. The body pains I have are generally very symetrical. I've also had some diarrhea which has been on and off but not constant with no high fevers at all.

I've done a total of 5 HIV tests now (I Know this is OTT) all have been Negative up to now. The last being yesterday (46 Days) and it was a Duo P24 Antigen & Antibody test with the results in 20min. All the tests I have down have been that of the Duo tests. (4 week - Neg, 6 Week Neg) I'm plannng to do another on 8 weeks and then 12 weeks.

I'm currenty seeing a therapist to help me through this and am on anti Depressants for my anxiety but my life has literally just done a 360 degree turn and I'm just lost. I'm abolutely terrified of contracting HIV and loosing my partner.

Can you offer me any advise on the above?
1. are the tests I've done with neg results a good sign that I'm most likely not infected?
2. why would I have these symptoms continuously? I've read that they can be related to HIV

Any advise would be most appreciated. Thank you so much for your support!! .

Offline RapidRod

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You never had an HIV exposure from oral sex and I'm sure you have been advised of this before.

HIV is transmitted by;
Unprotected penetrative anal and/or vaginal sex
Sharing works with other IV drug users
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Offline Ann

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Absolutely nothing you did or had done to you by the sex worker was a risk for hiv infection.

Neither getting a blowjob nor giving a woman oral sex are risks for hiv infection.

Neither fingering nor being fingered are risks for hiv infection.

Protected intercourse is just that - protected. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

You do NOT need further hiv testing at this time. You did not have a risk and therefore you are conclusively hiv negative. You do NOT have hiv.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. Whatever is going on has NOTHING to do with hiv. You have NOT had a risk for hiv infection and you do NOT have hiv.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER HIV TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline L00p

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Hi Ann, Hi RapidRod,

Thank you so much for your prompt response, it truly does help relieve some of the immense stress I'm going through at present.

I will take you advise/feedback and try my best to put this behind me. By doing so I hope that the physical symptoms I'm feeling slowly start to dissapear too as this is what is really getting me down now.

I will also continue to see a doctor to ensure I'm healthy and that I don't indeed have some form of other STD.

Thanks again for your support and understanding, I can't tell you how valuable it is to someone as anxious as me.


Offline Andy Velez

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I'm just chiming in here to join Ann and Rod in affirming that nothing you are reporting would have put you at risk for HIV transmission. Fortunately feelings aren't facts and this largely seems to be a situation in which you are being driven by shame and guilt about having had sex with a pro.

It would be good in the future to avoid mixing excessive drinking with casual sex. It's a dangerous combo but fortunately this time you did not put yourself at risk for HIV.

Let the guilt go and get on with your life. It's all just very human stuff. Really.
Andy Velez

Offline L00p

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Thanks Andy, sound advice which I totally agree with.
I'm also taking the extra measures of seeing a therapist now to deal with underlying issues that ultimately led me to these actions in the first place.

Many thanks again and have a wonderfull day.

Offline Andy Velez

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You're welcome. And that's a good move to talk things out some with a professional.

Good luck to you.
Andy Velez


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