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Worried again.
« on: November 22, 2012, 12:34:58 PM »

   I posted quite a few years ago regarding a possible risk (massage parlour lady inserted tip of her finger into my anus that may have had vaginal fluids on it and was informed that it was no risk). My only other concern was vaginal sex with a condom which again I accepted as no risk.

   I continued my visits to these massage parlours for quite a few years, maybe 1 visit every 2-3 months and only engaged in oral with a condom and vaginal sex with a condom (often the same condom used for both) and considered myself as free of any hiv risk.

   However, a few years ago I had a bout of penile thrush which cleared with better hygiene. It then returned and needed treatment to clear it (canesten cream), but now returns whenever the treatment stops and this cycle has been ongoing for over 4 years now. I've seen my doc and I got tested for diabetes which was negative. Seems crazy now, but I did visit some parlours while having thrush symptoms. Could vaginal fluid coming into contact with my penis (on the lady's fingers) which had thrush be a bigger risk for hiv transmission - as thrush did cause the skin on my glans to dry out and crack?

   I never initially considered hiv to be a concern as I've always had safe sex. Now though I'm becoming convinced that I've contracted hiv some time during my parlour visits and my immune system has been weakend enough for this thrush to continue recurring as this is a reported symptom of a weakend immune system. I do also suffer from dry skin and fungal infections of my toe nails and feet, frequent sinus infections and occasional bouts of diaorhea. I know symptoms are no way to diagnose hiv but this list is becoming too much of a coincidence to not raise the issue of possible hiv infection in my mind.

   I know I need to test to put my mind at rest over this and I'm working up to summoning the courage to go and get it done. I feel I need to get this off my chest somewhere, hence the post here, as it's not the easiest thing to discuss with friends and family.

Apologies for the long post and thanks in advance for any advice.
« Last Edit: November 22, 2012, 02:39:49 PM by gs44 »

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Re: Worried again.
« Reply #1 on: November 22, 2012, 08:08:56 PM »

As a sexually active adult, you should be having regular sexual health check ups (at least once a year), regardless of the presence or absence of any symptoms. Think of it like going to the dentist for regular check ups - you may not have a toothache, but you go anyway.

As you've been using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse (or do you go bare when you're not using the services of a massage parlour?) you should expect a negative hiv result.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection. There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Worried again.
« Reply #2 on: November 23, 2012, 06:24:34 PM »
Thanks for your reply Ann. Much appreciated. Take care.



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